i recently realise that a friend of mine was complaining about me, to a another mate. Apparently she was offended by something i have said to her and instead of telling me that i have offended her, she instead pretend that everything was alright with us and then complain to her mate about it. Worst of all that mate out of the blue, started to insult me and arguing with me about the thing she said offended my friend. At the time i really didn't mean to offend the friend i was only joking with her.
2006-08-21 21:37:20 · 18 answers · asked by corretta-love@yahoo.co.uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just talk to your friend. Tell her that if she calls herself a friend, she should not go around talking stuff about you with other people. If you did something that offended her, she should have told you, not everyone but you. I think after that if you see that things don't go back being the same, then just go on with your life and try to be more careful when you choose your friends. Also try to be more careful with what you say because sometimes what you think is funny may be offensive to other people. You don't want to go hurting all the people around you. Think before you speak! Good luck!
2006-08-21 21:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by metztli99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there youre friend that had the complaint to the other mate should be pulled up in front of this mate that had a go at you and get this mess sorted out explain that it was only a joke and in future you would prefer that sh just said how she felt in stead of this happening .....im sure this will get cleared up this way good luck
2006-08-21 21:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've just found out that they aren't real friends. You're true friends would never do a thing like that, they would tell you to your face that you've offended them. Forget about them, who needs enemies when you've got friends like that.
If i were you, i'd confront these people and tell them how you feel. Its out of order.
2006-08-21 21:45:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the thing to keep in mind here, is that we are all human and it is in our nature to have a wee ***** now and again, im sure you have said things about your friend in the past, but this doesnt make us bad people or friends. i think if it is really upsetting you then you should go and speak to this friend and tell them that in future you would prefer if you both could just be honest and talk about things that have upset you! or just forget about it and move on!
2006-08-21 21:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by law 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and explain that you didn't mean to insult her or hurt her. I wouldn't get my hopes up this person sound like a passive aggressive type, and they for the most part are not capable of an adult relationship.
2006-08-21 21:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not married wait till you get married and the family talks behind your back .I have a sister in law Mary who says things like I'm staying out of it yet she will be the first to tattle to everyone and can't keep her mouth shut. Like my brother in law says they will get over it if not they were not friends in the first place
2006-08-21 21:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by stefania_n2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good friends dont go behind each others back. its like there is something in common that you two are running after and she's playing smart to overide you. play it easy to knw whats up
2006-08-21 21:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by bedo k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you must have great sense of humour;)
the thing in friendship is to always speak the truth... face to face.
no matter how painful it may be. good luck with solving your problems
2006-08-21 21:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by ywe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get a life & if she cant take a joke TOUGH
2006-08-21 21:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by col 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try telling her it was a joke, or just not be friends with her anymore....
2006-08-21 21:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋