best friends for 9 yrs but when she has a man its all about the man never want to come over doesnt invite me over dont get me wrong im happy for her she is a singles parent of two and im not jelious because i have my hubby who i love spending time with but why not us any more is she really not my b/f anymore or am i feeling sorry for myself
2006-08-21 21:04:41 · 8 answers · asked by nvvlewis 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i really would like serious answers on here and huh doesnt seem to be one of them but thanks
2006-08-21 21:11:22 · update #1
Maybe you need to understand the difference between the two of you: you are happily married and she's not, she's still on the look out for someone who will be with her for the rest of her life. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, feel sorry for her because she might be pitying herself for not being like you. Maybe she is just waiting for the right time to see you with the right man beside her so that when she gets to face you it would not be difficult for her or that she will not feel insecure towards you. Just remain a bestfriend to her, in her weakness be her strength; be faithful to support her in her present condition and let her know that you are still the best friend that she ever had. For sure she will be glad to know that you never changed towards her.
2006-08-21 21:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Rency 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda understand how you feel. Just spend more time with your hubby. If she doesn't make herself available everytime there's a man in her life, then let it be. Just do your thing girl. Keep yourself busy with anything except her. You do n;t have to exclude her from your life, but you can plan and run without her.
Time will come she will notice that you are no longer spending much time with her than you used to. She might realize what she's missing with the friendship.
2006-08-21 21:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No never feel sorry for yourself coz your friend ain't spending time with u.
She is just trying to find someone to be with.
She should know that friendship lasted longer than relationships.
Let her know that you want to spend time with her and you don't want your friendship b/w u two to feel like it's off one year and back on when she loses the guy.
Talk to her about it and don't sit down and let her off.
This is like a lesson for you to find out if she is a true friend to give you her time just to talk or share life stories.
But if she not willing to give u the time than don't call her your best friend..she is just a friend.
Best friend: someone to always count on when your down, alone and take your time to talk 2, know they are there for u sometimes.
Friend: Someone that you hang around with and don't talk 2 that often.
True friend: someone that you know and so dear to you and never could lie to u and treats you like your one of her sisters.
Helps you with you problems and try so hard just to get to find time to talk 2 u and help u solve your problems, even when ur across the world.
2006-08-21 21:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it shows what a ture friend she is ..
u sould forget about it and just do the same things u do everyday dont get stressed over her she'll come around and that will b when she really needs u for now let her do what she wants to...
2006-08-21 21:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its true that when people get a man or mate they tend to forget about their friends and they don't remember them until their azz gets dumped. Just do your own thang and maybe kick it with other women. When she comes around let her know how you feel.
2006-08-21 21:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by sexy_n_chicago 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let her move on with her life. that is what friends are for! she will come when she feels she needs you and the same should be for you.
2006-08-21 21:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by trushka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Huh?
2006-08-21 21:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
understand her need and do not fret much about it
2006-08-21 21:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by trishul60 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋