Her belly is too big and too heavy and she feels pain?

Question

My daughter is 16.She is pregnant in 9th month.We live just the 2 of us.We haven't been to a doctor because the pregnancy and we have plas for her to deliver the baby at home(we don't have neighbours close to our house).The problem is that her belly is very big.When I was pregnant with her,my belly was twice smaller in 9-th month.The belly causes her pain and it's too big and heavy.She cannot move easy.She usually cannot stand up of the bed(in the morning) and I can't help her,so since the 6-th month she has been staying in the bed without moving out.She pees and makes caca in special pamperses for women.She also has painful contractions since the beginning of the 9-th month.Is it all normal?Don't tell me to go to a doctor - WE WON'T GO TO ANY DOCTORS,FORGET IT.Just give some advice please.When I touch her belly,she feels pain too.During the morning massage(I do on her abdomen) she screams of pain.Of course I don't stop,I think she needs it.So,give some advice please.

Yes,I was pregnant,delivered and sold the baby.So what?

Answer 1

Well you may be losing your daughter to toxemia! If she dies and the baby also will you be sorry you didn't take her to a dr?Take her now. Her blood pressure is probably very high and she is swelling because of the problem!There is no need to kill her when a simple trip to ER will help her. If you don't have money you can get help to pay for it.If you are trying to hide her pregnancy, it isn't worth it. Please get her help!I don't know why you are massaging her belly, especially if it hurts.I will pray for ya'll right now. Best wishes!

Answer 2

When I was pregnant with twins,my abdomen was bigger than the normal and I also felt pain touching it.I hardly ever stood up of the bed,just for going to the bathroom.You have found perfect solution to the problem with pamperses for women.You said when you do a massage,she screams of pain.That's because her belly is sensitive to touching,but don't worry - the massage can only help and won't harm her,but yes,she will feel a lot of pain.If you want her to deliver at home,you should know that during delivery your daughter will feel the greatest pain ever,but if you hit her on the belly or on the mouth she will decide not to scream and will keep silent.After the delivery you will better tie her not to move from the bed for 3-4 weeks.After all it,she may not be able to walk,but don't worry,she will get used to walking if you get off all pamperses and leave her pee and make caca in her panties.She won't like it,so she will have to try to go to the bathroom.Good luck!

Answer 3

How to make the situation easier for her?
I'm Paulina(28 years).My friend and her husband died in a car accident 6 years ago.They had a daughter - Emma(now 15 years old).Their insisted on me to become Emma's guardian if something happens to them(they didn't have relatives in the US).At that time I lived alone and I was 22,so there was no problem to take Emma with me.Soon we became best friends,just like sisters.Anyway,now I'm pregnant in 8th month and I don't work(I have a well-paid job,but now I'm on maternity leave).My boyfriend and I decided not to marry,but he is going to take care of the baby either.
That was the background,so you could understand it all.In the beginning of the pregnancy everything was OK,Emma took things very well.Lately she is a bit strange - doesn't want to talk,falls silent when I talk about the baby.I know her very well and I think she is jealous of the baby.She probably thinks the baby will get her place in the family.Tell me how can I help her understand that she will always be my best friend?

Answer 4

Why wouldn't you go to a doctor? Answer this question. If she's in that much pain, then it's not normal. Something must be wrong with the embryo. During pregnancy, the mother has to go to a doctor for a regular checkup to ensure the baby's safety and health. I don't see what you have against doctors? They're just there to help, not all of them are "money-hungry" if that's your fear. You can always apply to the government for financial aid. (http://www.medicare.gov/) Anyways, I hope all will go well, but I fear for the embryo inside your daughter. If you are still stubborn and refuse a doctor, your daughter's and your grandchild's life are in jeopardy. It's your choice, make the right one! Meanwhile check out http://www.pregnancy.org/ for more info on pregancy.

Answer 5

I think its totally ok to have a baby at home.. But at least have a midwife cometoyour home to examine your daughter..How do you know the baby isnt upside down?? A checkup wont do any harm... A water birth sounds about right to me my friend had a water birth its the most natural I think.. with dimlights and candles but she still had a midwife there to help andmake sure nothing went wrong...

If the baby is upside down?? What then??

Then the baby will die unless she is cut open and the baby is taken out...

Go try and find some help...For the baby's sake..

Or look up more on home births by yourself.. Call a clinic.. ask for some advise.. It wont harm you...

Answer 6

You may not wanna hear it, but doctors is the best thing, they have medical training, do NOT let your beliefs get in the way of the health of your grand baby, you could loose the baby due to negligence...& that will be your fault.

If she is in real pain, something could be wrong, especially since she is so young, she and the child could be in real danger of something happening,you would be charged with negligent homicide, if you can live with taking that chance, then wow, i don't want to be your daughter and i will be praying for her!!!

Answer 7

Someone should call child services on you - having a 16 year old pregnant daughter that you won't take to a doctor is nothing short of CHILD ABUSE.

Answer 8

This is child abuse.Your daughter could be carrying twins / have a detached placenta. Do you realize that heaven forbid your child and or the babies should die you can be held for murder? Get her to a hospital. Whatever your fears etc are, what could happen can be much worse!

Answer 9

I would say go to the doctors but since you're not up for that idea, there is nothing we can do to help?
You've obviously created all sorts of barrier to hinder the safe delivery of your daughter's child.

Answer 10

nicely then that guy became into an asshole. it is going to be lined countless the time anyhow top? And while you're mushy with it, this is ALL that concerns. they have a piercing that is going into your abdomen on the same time as your pregnant, in particular made for once you get pregnant.