2006-08-21 20:01:44 · 24 answers · asked by fletcheyc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
. That is a great question, and by asking it you are showing that you really want to learn more about what makes you tick. My Gut feeling on your question is that you may not like the way others see you. So lets get you over that, by thinking of all of the things that you like about your self. It all starts there. Are you a honest person? Do you think of ways to help others? Count up all the neat things that you do for others. Look for ways to grow as a person. Respect who you are and others will follow your lead. And don't waste time on trying to make people like you, because the ones that won't will never be talk into liking you. RESPECT your self, and hang out with those who respect themselves.
A good book for you to read, that has helped many, is Secrets Of Attractions, By Sandra Ann Taylor. You can get it at most on line book stores. The best of luck to you.
2006-08-25 19:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by loudowsonjr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not that hard, once you realize the acting is what they fall for and eventually it causes the relationshi p to fail as a act can only be put on for so long. After that and you meet someone you don't want to let go it is very easy to be yourself.
-NmD!
2006-08-22 03:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that only happens when you feel too concious about how the other person will see you.
you behave in a way you THINK they will like to see you.
just you be yourself. if that someone will like you - then let them like you for what you are !
at the end of the day if you are going to be in a long term relationship, you are better off liking each other for what you truly are.
good luck
2006-08-22 04:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's harder to be ourselves when we really like someone because we're more self conscious because we're trying to get them interested in us. So we want to show ourselves in the best light. Because of that, westart to think should I have said that? Did I sound desperate? How's my hair? How's my breath? Where as when we're with our friends we don't worry about it that much because they're just our friends. They know how loud we belch. Or how messy our room is and that you're always late. Anyway I hope this helps.
2006-08-22 03:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by Paige 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most people are afraid that, if they are themselves...they have the fear that the person that they like doens't really like who they really are. So, they try to change themselves into something that they THINK the OTHER person would like the original person to be like. Does that make sense? Basically, if you don't care about someone, or don't mind them...your yourself around them...because you don't care what they think of you. But if you are around someone that you really like, then you try to be become something that the person you like...likes.
2006-08-22 03:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by helpWanteD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN YOU FIRST MEET SOMEONE YOURE ALWAYS ADVISED TO JUST BE YOURSELF BUT AT SAME TIME YOURE OUT THERE TO TRY AND IMPRESS THEM. RIGHT NOW IM IN THAT PREDICAMENT AND FIND THERES A FINE LINE BETWEEN THE TWO.
2006-08-22 03:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by ward1703 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too anxious to impress them. It fades a little once you spend a little more time with them, but not completely. I've been with my boyfriend for years and I still try and hide it when I do something clumsy or silly :)
2006-08-22 03:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by KyLeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whn u really fall 4 sm1 uactually go bonkers ovr her!so u juz wanna b like she wants u to b.u ll try to do those things wch according to her r good but may not interest u!but u still do coz u want her to notice u!
so i know its tough to b urself whn u really like some1 but surely give it a try coz thts wat really helps.
and remember always a person should like u the way u r.no 1 in this world is worth ur indvidual identity!
hope this helps !
ciao!!!!!!!!!!1
2006-08-22 03:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by palashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk... some people just get shy all of a sudden.... i know i do sometimes untill i get to know someone.... its hard to be yourself when you dont know what to expect from the other person.... all you can do is try... besides what can it hurt.. if they like you then thats good.. if not then its better to know now then later....
2006-08-22 03:07:58 · answer #9 · answered by ♥BUD or BUD LIGHT♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are not too sure about your self and you are always trying to be the best in frount of them my advice is be your self dont try to act like someone you are not because if you aucally get futher then they wont know who you are and they just feel for someone they thought you are my self if i wanted someone to love me i would want them to love me for who i am not for who i try to be to get them to love me just think about it hope i helped
2006-08-22 03:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by typhaniee0027 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋