So if I'm jealous all the time because I hate myself, how can I learn to love myself?
My jealousy is taking over my life!! :'(
2006-08-21 19:44:44 · 12 answers · asked by artymusicfan 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Its very easy to tell someone to simply "accept who you are and accept your faults and accept the cards you were dealt" blah de blah
but exactly how do you go about accepting those things?
Im sorry my answer wasnt a help but truthfully, easy to say the word 'accept' not easy to do it though is it? Its like saying "oh just accept your mother is dead"
How!?
2006-08-21 19:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cannot let things that you can't control run your life. it may take some conditioning...but just say "this really is driving me nuts. but there isn't a thing i can do about it..why don't i just take the dog for a walk, get some exercise, and think about something else."
jealousy can be really consuming, but if you take steps to IMPROVE yourself, such as eating right and exercising, you will see that these start to fade away. If you're jealous of people's clothes, find a way to improve your wardrobe without breaking the bank or deliberatly copying somebody else. Say, try goodwill. there are many ways you can get your mind on something else. good luck!
2006-08-21 19:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by M. L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people get jealous when their pride is hurt. That's not a form of self hatred. However people who have a problem with excessive jealousy, need to learn to not let their pride get in their way, cause your hurting yourself, as well as others. Most people get jelous over the most little things, they seem real important, but when you really stop & think about it usually it's really petty.
2006-08-21 20:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by jerrisr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree up until about 4 months ago i used to get jealous if my sister or friends had more money or a nicer house then me then i just decided to be happy for them after all why would i want them to be miserable ?
It sounds very hippyish but my life is so much better now I'm a much more positive and confident person and since I've stopped been jealous of everyone I'm better off.
I think jealousy tends to eat you up inside and it's taken me 28 years to realise that it's not going to get you anywhere.
take care :)
2006-08-21 19:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
pls try control it by lets say hanging out with the people who do not bring that out, also find a friend to confide in and you will feel better the minute you admit you have the problem then you have control over it, it normally stems out from a shaky family background where the primary caregiver was absent oe not reliably present, so the fear o loosing the person u love grips you, i used to suffer from the same but am now better coz i know i have the problem i avoid dating guys who flirt or those who make me feel jealous coz of their entertaining every woman in their lives which makes me feel not special
you will overcome it not to worry
2006-08-21 20:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by Ruby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a piece of paper and pencil. Start a list of all the things you like about yourself, from the little things to the big things. They're all acceptable. (ie. I like my eye color, I'm good at math, etc.) Write it all. When you run out of things to write, ask your family/friends/coworkers/etc. just make sure you phrase what they say in your own words. Take a break, come back to the list in an hour/the next day/ later and write more. Make another list of things you like to do that make you feel good (ie. take a walk, a bubble bath,call a friend, cook something you like, etc.) Remember: EVERYONE has bad qualities and GOOD!
2006-08-21 20:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by Suzanne G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know that you were made unique, wonderfully and fearfully. There may be some aspects of your self that you believe could be improved but there is no-one like you or as beautiful as you. Never look at others to assess your self but look at what you were designed to be and be the best you can be!
2006-08-21 19:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by insane2mad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is not hatred of yourself. It is about not being content in life, of what you have. It is a pre-cursor of greed.
2006-08-21 20:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by alexandria h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Professional help is probably the best answer. Try to consider the other persons perspective . What would you do if you were another and had to deal with you?
2006-08-21 19:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by thrag 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
me when im jealous im going out just to let it pass by.on the other you can't be jealous if it's not true di ba?
2006-08-21 20:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by edwin v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋