I am good hearted interesting guy, look young too. My relationships tend to last about a year, lots of them shorter than that. I either find reasons why she is not the one or if there is love in the beginning I loose interest or get accusative. I wish I could change this, because I am depressed recently at losing another one, and the lonliness plus my age is really bringing me down. I can't fake attraction and I need a woman to be both physically and mentally attractive. Is there much hope for someone like me to still find a stable and loving relationship leading to marriage?
2006-08-21 19:27:55 · 12 answers · asked by czesc2u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not fun being alone sometimes. I am mostly commenting on the part where you said that you loose interest. Love isn't about a warm lustful feeling, real love is a choice and a commitment. That feeling that is there in the beginning isn't love, and it never lasts. That's lust. Love is when you choose to stick it out with someone even through the harder times even when you may not want to be with them anymore, but because you made a commitment. Perhaps your expectations are a little high? Just a thought.
2006-08-21 19:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you probably did no longer make love, you had intercourse ! huge distinction He cried, in line with probability from guilt, yet greater in all probability via fact he grow to be scared his spouse could locate out. of direction he did no longer spend the night with you, which could take too lots explaining away to his spouse of direction he seems at you longingly - you presented him intercourse on a plate and are happy to furnish him intercourse returned . i do no longer consider the countless posts right here that decision you a slag .... on one point he's the only interior the courting, you're no longer.. yet you're being naive and actually stupid in case you think of this is going to get you everywhere..you're 31 years previous, no longer a stupid teenager who would not understand to any extent further advantageous. And sure if he have been happy in his marriage then he does no longer be chasing you, yet in line with probability he's the variety who needs informal intercourse as and while he can locate somebody to offer it to him.. if it wasn't you it could be somebody else.. Have greater appreciate for youself please. If no longer the rest, do you fairly must be with somebody who can cope together with his spouse that way... down the line that's YOU he cheats on ! to your individual sake and peace of suggestions, forget approximately this loser and finally end up a first rate guy who's loose to be with you. do no longer demean your self by ability of throwing your self at a guy, who isn't loose to be with you and has advised you that truly it grow to be a mistake and could never ensue returned.
2016-11-05 08:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by sturms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people do not realize that any long term marraiges have times when they can not stand each other and times when they want to be stuck to each other. I do not mean like days, I mean like years. Most long term marriages have times when spouses have been unfaithful and they have worked their way through tat. There is no one person who you are going to be so hot for all of your life. Get some one whom you are compatiable with and you get along together. Share the same interests. Love each other and have mutual respect for each other. Sex thing is secondary. You need a spouse who can handle money and is thrifty. If its all physical attraction and has no other attraction yes you will be seperated in a year or so. I married a man I respected and I knew could support me while I was bearing his children (6). We fought a lot and loved a lot. Raising teenagers was a trying time. Now we have been together 46 years and are very much in love. There were years he could not stand me and years I could not stand him. We stuck it out. Now our children grown and half our grandchildren grown. We moved away from them all so we could have time together. Problem is my health has deteriorated. He has had colon cancer 4 years ago and I worry about him. That is what long term realtionships are made of. No Cinderella and no knight in shinning armor. He supported me through the first 15 years of child bearing and he put me through nursing shool by helping me care for the children and doing house work for me. I worked 30 years as an RN to help him financially. We own two homes. Have put children through college and have given them land to give them a head start in life. That is what long term relationships are made of. We have fought a lot and loved a lot. There have been good times and not so good times. When I was ready to walk out in the marriage he kept me home and when he was ready to go I kept him home. That is what long term relationships are about. After 45 plus years I still like knocking him to the ground and ravishing him. And he still gets a hard __ when he looks at me. That is what marriage and relationships are about. I am as homely as a mud hen. But I made a home when he was a sailor and gone 9 months out of the year for the first 12 years of our marriage. Kept the home and children when he was gone 2 years before he retired from the navy. Saw him through colon cancer 4 year ago and he saw me througjh ill health starting 16 years ago. That is what a commitment to marrige is about.
Good luck in your search for Mrs perfect. it will never happen for you. Mrs Perfect only marries Mr Perfect.
2006-08-21 19:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a coincidence - I too, am 51 and never married and find relationships impossible. I'm quite happy living my own life but, listen, best of luck to you
2006-08-21 19:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Babs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep On Trying! Or, resort to re-runs of 70's hit TV programing!
2006-08-21 19:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by arenaimage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not spending your time on Yahoo! Answers. You're gonna have to lower your standards or perhaps go to a therapist to help you overcome that. All people suck in some way, gotta suck it up if you don't want to die alone.
Good Luck dude!
2006-08-21 19:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by Marlene 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to break the chain yourself. Guess you enjoy changing women ... like changing clothes.
Either you have accientally dropped Miss Right or she is round the corner. Partners aren't easy to fine. Work harder.
2006-08-21 19:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by j t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so picky, no one is perfect. Maybe you should go to counseling to find out the real reason you are afraid of close relationships.
2006-08-21 19:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by Izzy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
6 months ago, you were 49, now your 51,.... I'd say you age would be bringing you down at that rate.
2006-08-21 19:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever think your trying too hard,, try slowing it down and just let things go as they might, you may be running them off yourself???Your friend from Tennessee...ROB
2006-08-21 19:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋