whats better??...?

Question

which name do you think sounds better for my daughter to be...
1. Aira< or
2.Nora3.Sara4.Kalynn5.Ciara6.Fiona7.Isolt
and plus shes going to have his last name b.c. he was begging me and its Lacovara...
and he said b4 it didnt matter what name i picked as long she has his last name...i honestly dont know what to do i mean he's barely around b.c. he has soccer..so he can get into a good collage...and get a good job to help me and our baby..i dont know what to do any advice on how to talk through to this guy..i mean..its hard as it is being pregnant and hearing my family talk bad about him thinking he keeps making up storys so he doesnt have to come over or hangout.idk what to do about that i mean they dont understand what he's trying to do..and it sucks to i havent seen him in weeks.b.c. he's always busy.so any advice?

please if ya have any advice please tell me..b.c. im not sure what to do..anymore...what could i do to make this relationship better..b.c. we get into arguments..over stupied stuff...and we never get to finish our conversations b.c. he always has to go...or i would...and he knows since iam pregnant of corse im going to act like a ***** at times..but i need advice on how to make this relationship work better..until i have our daughter which is suppose to be this saturday the 26th..well thanks for any advice..:)

and just to let u all know iam with the babys father and we want this child and lover very much..

Answer 1

Nora hands down

Answer 2

It sounds like he is already retreating from the relationship. I am sorry for you that he isn't with you as he should be. You are both young and will make many mistakes throughout your lives .Don't push him into anything because he will regret it and make things worse. Try to concentrate on your baby and you and getting healthy after the baby. It sounds like your family love you and want what is best for you. My dad told me I didn't have to marry the dad of my baby when I was 16 because he said my bf wouldn't amount to anything. Mom pushed me into marriage though. I should have listened to dad. My husband ran around on me and wouldn't pay the bills and we didn't have food some of the time and he was abusive! Then we got divorced when I was 18 because he had another girl preg and was 6mo along when he finally told me.I raised my son alone and really wished I had NOT named him after his deadbeat dad! You make sure that you and the baby are safe and happy but don't expect much from a young guy. They just don't mature as fast as girls who get preg. do! We are forced into maturity by our bodies reactions to the preg. Name the baby what you want. He may be using the name as an excuse to fight over something so he can have a way out. I do hope you both work this out and stop fighting. It isn't good for a marriage or a child. Best wishes but remember to think of and take of yourself and the baby and make sure every decision is the best one for the baby, not the bf. The bf may not be around but your child will rely on you forever!

Answer 3

Gee, my advise would be to marry the boyfriend so your baby can have a father, but if your boyfriend doesn't want to be a father to your baby, then why on earth would you give the baby his last name???? It also sounds like you are a teenager, so you ought to seriously consider putting your baby up for adoption. I know it's hard, but you're not ready yet to care for a baby. Finish your education, and grow up. Having a baby isn't some doll that you can play with, it's a major decision, and your baby deserves to be in a home with 2 parents that can care for her, and love her the way she deserves to be loved. It will be the greatest thing you can do for her. God bless.

Answer 4

Yes. Stop feeling guilty.

This is YOUR baby and YOUR life. It sounds like your parents are being buttinskies.

I had that problem too once but I wasn't pregnant.

I know it sounds cold but it isn't.

Sometimes parents forget, that their little girl is all grown up.
They mean well. They're just looking after you, so as you don't wind up being unhappy.

Ironicly, though, THEY'RE the ones making you miserable.

Remember, his being gone a lot, is all in an effort to give the 3 of you the best life he can. To DO this, he will be very busy for quite awhile. That really IS what it takes. He is working very hard to reach his goal for all three of you.

Becomming financially successful, takes a lot of hard work and MOST of your time. That is where he is now. He loves you very much. Believe me, it's all for you and your baby, down the line. He's cranky because he's exhausted. That will pass.

Here is where maturity on your part, comes into play.
Know that your parents love you and they think they are helping. If you have a sense of humour, now would be a good time to excersize it.

Look at the funny side of it, if you can.

Tell them you love them very much and can understand how they are just looking out for you but remind them, that they are acting like a couple of mother hens, then smile really big. Give them a hug and tell them you love them. Tell them, that you and your boyfriend have carefully mapped out a plan and everything will be fine.

Ask them to stop worrying. It isn't necessary. Tell them..."Hey, I've always got YOU. What could go wrong, when I have parents that care about me so much?"

Say, "I love you TOO much to see you worrying about something that you're just speculating about."

"Watch. You will learn to live him, in time, just as much as I do."

This SHOULD make them feel good, knowing that they have such a loving and intelligent daughter.

If things don't work out? So? It wouldn't be exactly the end of the world.

Try explaining AGAIN, to them, how hard your boyfriend is working to provide a good life for the 3 of you. That takes up all of his time. He's pulling double duty. MOST guys would NEVER work that hard. MOST would flee from responsability.

As far as the NAME, Aira, That's MY favorite too! That is really a beautiful name.

Don't let him or his family and friends, PUSH you into making decisions that are yours, to make.

Maturity factor comes into play once again.

It's always best to be able to compromise, when naming a baby. Really, BOTH of you and NO ONE ELSE, should decide on a name together, that you BOTH like.

There are PLENTY of beautiful names you can choose or even make up.

If he detests it THAT much, you may have to give a little and sit down with him. Have a long list of names you like. For example, "What would you name your baby, if you had ANOTHER little girl.

You will HAVE to come to some sort of an agreement on the name. One, you BOTH like.

To tell you the truth, even though I LOVE the name AIRA, it sounds a little weird with his last name, Lacovera.

Would you consider the name of "Sleeping Beauty"?
Aroura? Such as the northern lights called the"Aroura Borialis"?
That goes very well with his last name, Lacovera.

Aira Lacover.....It loses the pretty sound, with THAT particular last name. Talk to him about it and find something that you both like.

Airia,(Air-EEEuh) Lacovara sounds nice. Like a movie star.

Do you want to use your maiden name?
If you're planning on getting married, that would be odd.

If he hasn't proposed to you, you will have to bring that up with him.

If he isn't ready for the big "I DOs", then tell him it just wouldn't be socially prudent to give your daughter his last name.

People would not understand that at all.

Anyway...See if you can't come up with a name you BOTH like AND blends well with her LAST name.

Picking a name takes a lot of thought but whatever you do, DON"T let outsiders push you around and demand that you name your little girl after something THEY chose.

It is not their decision to make and what they are doing is socially unacceptable. They have crossed that line.

Good luck and stick to your guns. Don't let others take away from your happy event. Tell them, that's what they're doing, if you have to but in a kind way. You don't want to start anymore rifts betwwen you. They don't realize it but all of them are taking away a little piece at a time, of the joy and happiness, you should be feeling right now. Not agony and stress.
AND..............

CONGRATULATIONS on your new baby!

I can tell, you're smart. I'm sure you can pull this off without leaving any bruises on their egos.

Answer 5

i think i would try to avoid any name ending in an 'a' sound if the surname does
ciara lacovara, hmmmmmmmm sounds a bit like a pornstar name to me

Answer 6

I like Nora and Sara..... It's nice that your boyfriend is letting you choose the name. If there's one that he really doesn't like however, I think his opinion should be respected.

Answer 7

AIRA I already know a Nora

Answer 8

SARA was my great grannys name. AND it brought so much respect.

Answer 9

CIARA? I SHOULD SMACK YOU FOR SAYING THAT