I met this girl some time ago and ever since its been bumps in the road with us, the funny thing is that what we feel for each other is so strong that i can't imagine not being with her. We've broken up twice, and currently talk to each other once in a blue moon and see each other even less. I guess the distance has been because of me because i just feel that apart from the feelings we're not meant to be, there always seems to be something separating us. She says that she doesn't want to hurt me by being with me, and that she thinks that we should just be friends, but i can't think of her as just a "friend" it's impossible. I'm always trying to talk to her about us but she hates confrontations of that sort, she's not very open about herself. Please help, i think the best thing is to completely ignore her and not to talk to her or see her again, sometimes that's the best way to make the heart forget. yes or no? Or should i just try to be friends ? please help.
2006-08-21 19:05:34 · 11 answers · asked by Lexus-Nut 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'm willing to hurt and bleed for us trying to fix or make what we have into something permanent, happy. but i'm not willing to hurt to try and be friends. Does that make me selfish? I just can't see her as just that.
2006-08-21 20:27:44 · update #1
This is a decision you have to make yourself.
Sometimes you just can't save a relationship, and you simply have to let it go. Which sometimes can mean letting go of the friendship as well.
You could try to work on it, but both parties have to be willing to put in the effort, and if she's not or if you're not then it has to be let go.
If you can't simply think of her as a "friend", maybe for the time being you should let go of the relationship all together (including friendship) and consider reconnecting later when you feel you've moved on enough to consider her as a "friend" with no hidden emotions or agendas.
Good luck either way.
2006-08-21 19:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, i feel u more than you could even know....im going through that.....listen, first, i know one way or the other it basically feels like a no win situation right? cause u can either be with her as a friend or not be with her at all......just think about the fact that if you ever did have something special with her then thats never gonna go away....if you stay close to her then youll always be a little more than just "friends"....if you really feel her like that and care about her then it should be ok to be there for her.....make her feel like you're still someone special....stay close because who knows, it could turn out the way you want it to.....but dont rely on that....stay friends and enjoy what you guys have, but just move on emotionally from her and just keep yourself available just so you dont get too caught up with her......hope that helps somewhat
2006-08-22 02:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by me m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest u to have friendship with her and through this relationship u should make her think that how much u LOVE her n how much u care for her.u know u r in LOVE with her!make her know ur heart feelings.one thing which i know to make her feel ur love for is to cry once infront of her.i think its the most impressing way of showing love.
u can never forget having friendship with her.one way to forget is to break all the relations with her n then never ever think of her.but if i were u i would do what i have written earlier about love.
not to forget onething,judge her whehter is she good enough to lead whole life with u.think for ur whole life as well.if she is not good enough to lead whole life with u the i would suggest u to leave her n forget her.
2006-08-22 02:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by faisal b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there's anything i learned from dating, it's that it's virtually impossible to "just be friends" with your ex. you'll either end up with them back in bed, call 'em for rebound, or even be the rebound guy, but in the end you'll just get hurt. too many strings are attached, and there's too much history. you can't forget, but you simply have to accept it and move on.....
2006-08-22 02:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by invisigoth208 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be friends maybe they will maybe they wont but gotta get on with your life. Look for someone else hard but very doable
2006-08-22 02:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by Titanic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gentle man as per details , you better leave her alone , for a happy future , you both are not made for each other , find out another .
2006-08-22 02:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just easy to say this phrase"follow your heart" But if she is the one..go 4 it.
2006-08-22 02:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be friends.
2006-08-22 02:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by littlecloieinttown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be friends .
2006-08-22 02:10:21 · answer #9 · answered by Antar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes of course
2006-08-22 02:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋