I'm totally afraid of penis, I can't even stand the sight of it, or even think about it. I'm getting to the age where sex is expected and guys expect me to make a move to rub their penis or give them a ******** or even full sex. The thought of touching a penis or inserting it into my body is horrific to me! What's wrong with me? What do I do? I don't know how to explain it, I just think a penis is awkward, ugly, and disgusting! I'm afraid of it!
Note: I'm not a lesbian and I enjoy men and I have no attraction to women, so that's not the issue.
2006-08-21 18:45:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
What!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-21 19:42:16 · answer #1 · answered by speedy >>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, this is not a place that you will solve this problem. You don't mention how old you are, but I am assuming that you are probably in your early teens (13 to 16). You may just not be ready yet. Most people think members of the opposite sex are "icky" between the ages of 6 and 9 or there abouts. Our attitudes change over time. I would recommend getting some counseling if you truly are afraid. I rather agree with you that they are rather funny looking.
All this aside, what the guy "expects" doesn't count. No one should push you into something you are not emotionally or psychologically prepared for. You set the timing in your life, not some guy. If I was right about your age, then take your current feelings as a sign that you are definitely not ready yet for the kinds of sexual encounters you mentioned.
2006-08-25 21:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by Magic One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are too young. If you are getting to that age where sex is supposed to be "Ok" you are wrong. Don't let anyone pressure you to have sex or anything like that until you are ready. And it sounds to me like you are not ready. Maybe you think that it is so ugly because your mind knows your body isn't ready to be near it. I'm sure eventually you will change your mind, just give it some time. And in the meantime, please stay away from any type of sex, and any boy that makes you think you should have sex.
2006-08-22 01:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by HeavenLee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The penis is simply an appendage, like a finger or toe, but which, you've associated with something dirty, like "dirty sex". You probably also feel as if your vagina is "dirty", such that you would feel uncomfortable having a man you care about go down there. Therefore your problem does not stem from what it is, but rather, from what you have associated those parts of the body to. Next time you desire to be more intimate, think of it as a large clean finger; it may help.
2006-08-22 10:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with what HeavenLee said.
Don't be pressured into it. You'll regret it for the rest of your life. When you find the right guy, things will flow naturally with you.
BTW you are NOT the first woman to say that the penis is ugly and gross. And you won't be the last either!
2006-08-22 13:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by ηιgнт ѕтαя 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your too young to appreciate sex. Don't worry about it, in time everything will be fine. Don,t let anyone tell you you have too have sex or they expect it from you. That's up to you and you only. If your not ready, say so. There's nothing wrong with waiting...........really.
2006-08-23 10:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by yooper guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think so, too. Now I am older and wiser. I know more about men and about myself. Just give yourself some time and don't let anyone force you to do anything you don't want to do. That will only make things worse for you.
2006-08-22 21:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by Felicia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are finally with the right guy, you won't be able to keep your hands off it.
You sound too young to be pressured into whatever you are experiencing right now. Wait a few years.
2006-08-22 01:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to confront it sooner or later. Just take your time. They're not all ugly looking twisted up wreckage with warts. Some have got to be as sexy looking as mine. I understand you being frightened of those uncircumcised ones; they're butt-ugly. Just take your time, and even if you have to check 'em out first, just don't settle until you see one you actually feel an attraction to. Whatever you do, stay out of harm's way. You don't want to be caught in an awkward situation where you end up traumatized. Don't be alone with someone you do not know or trust, either. You never know who the pervert or rapist (tree-jumper) is. Watch out for the ones that are bent like bananas, they'll make you laugh.
2006-08-22 02:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by fingerssfv 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
You don't mention your age. If you are very young, this is not particularly abnormal, however if you are into your mid-twenties and feeling this way, you might want to talk to a therapist.
2006-08-22 04:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister has that phobia and she is married now, with no kids...she struggles with showing love to her husband but loves him with her whole heart. i think it is juast like a compulsive disorder, i am sort of like that but only in cases of wetness on my hands, and oral..i just cant do it without gagging, so dont worry you arent the only one with a weak stomach. i heard females reach there sexual peak at 30>35yrs. old...i guess we'll have to wait and see......
2006-08-25 17:46:48 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋