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I read this from someone's blog (Coffee-Infused Insomniac's) but he's suspended. And no, this didn't come out from me.

Is "Crush" and "Love" just the same thing? Hugs and kisses...don't we wanna get them when we have crushes? Then there's bulletins floating around that love is when we wanna hug and kiss someone forever...blah blah.

But most of the time, all the lovey stuff leads to sex, right? Even though some people say that sex has nothing to do with love. But face it. Face the reality. Most of the time, that lovin' feeling leads to kinky funky hot monkey sex in the bedroom.

What is love, anyway? Nature's way of tricking us to reproduce?

I bet it's the new brand of condoms.

Some say it's the combination of lust, affection and commitment.

People don't like the lust part so they go "When your heart tells you" or "You can't describe it"

Same goes to some people who say that love and crushes are different.

Hey, how the hell can you tell if you're in love if you can't describe it?

2006-08-21 18:40:02 · 15 answers · asked by Quack Man 1 in Arts & Humanities Philosophy

found his blog

http://spambusted.blogdrive.com

2006-08-21 18:54:19 · update #1

Me? I think he doesn't think love exists and he's attacking the pillow hugging people.

2006-08-21 18:56:31 · update #2

15 answers

Hey, that blog looks awfully familiar.

Anyways, I WAS attacking these so-called "Pillow-Huggers" (Or humpers, that sounds much more fun.)

I just find them annoying, going off with "Oh, the love...love me...oh, I wanna hold you forever, I'm in love."

2006-08-21 20:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Coffee-Infused Insomniac 1 · 0 1

well, as all mammals do, nature has given us a way to choose who to reproduce with. In other species the female generally chooses the strongest male to reproduce with, or sometimes the smarter one. The same way with us, only more subtle, the thing goes a little far, and there is this feeling associated with the need of reproducing. At the bottom, you are right, perhaps love is a way that nature tells us who to have children with, because I bet that neither you, or anyone I know so far, would choose to have children with someone they are not in love with. The need for sex is a totally different story, as we humans are known as the only species that has sex just for the pleasure, but that doesn´t mean you would wanna have kids with any b**** you f*** around, am I right?
So there you know the difference, if the person you are going to bed with gives you this great feeling that you want to have children with her/him (and go through a long term relationship, why not?) then you can start thinking you are in love. But if the other person doesn´t seem much more than a good f*** to you, just go for it, for the pleasure.
Although sometimes love seems a little more complicated than that, don´t you think?





OK, read his blog and you are right, he is attacking pillow hugging people.

2006-08-21 19:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by wisdom is my signature 4 · 0 0

Who said love has nothing to do with sex. Sex is the basis of attraction between and a man and woman. The difference between lust and love is that lust is purely physical with no commitment between the partners in the act whereas in love the sexual attraction is sustained even after the culmination in physical union and there is a tacit commitment between the partners to give some thing to each other. There is a bonding which gets deeper, as love journeys through various living experiences successfully. Lust simply vanishes off the moment orgasm is achieved.

2006-08-21 18:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I think you know you're in love when you realize you can't live without the other person, when your he/she has become such an integral part of your soul. Sex is like the physical showing of love, but there are words, feelings, emotions, and memories associated with love that's more than just hot sex.

I also think that love is different for everyone. What i described is love according to how I see and have experiences; ultimately, it really is up to you to realize if that person is THE one you're in love with, or just another passing fling/crush/attraction.

2006-08-21 18:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by greenlady16 2 · 0 0

That's a prime example of fallacious reasoning. It's an age-old logical fallacy known as affirming the consequent.

It occurs when you have statements of the following form:

If A then B
B
Therefore A

Although this isn't a textbook example of affirming the consequent, it operates on the same underlying presumption - given the consequent of a conditional relationship, we can predictably assume the cause of this (in this case, he makes this assumption because both "love" and "crush" have the same predictable result of a desire for and occasionally occurences of physical intimacy).

As a counter-example:

Stomach viruses cause me to vomit.
Bulemia creates in me a desire to vomit.

Therefore they must be the same thing!

2006-08-21 18:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by Kerintok 2 · 0 0

know what..
love depends on ones maturity,
if your a teenager, its the time u try to learn bout the birds and the bees, few years after that, its then u want to be with some1 who can make u feel gud and at the same time make u a better person, and then as u grow old, it will be more about commitment and so on.. and as u grow older and much older i say..
love will be the most convenient thing to have..
when ur head is balding, ur belly is bulging...
in short, when u become phisically undesirable, love will be ur last resort, coz its sumthing that u once invested on someone and that would be the time u reap what u sow.
sounds complicated leh
but try to think of it

2006-08-21 18:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes love is part of natures instinctive way of reproducing.
If you are attracted to someone it is natures way of telling you that reproduction would be beneficial with that being. And, your children will keep you " alive ".

There is much more to understand about passion and lust: but I don't have time now, it takes a lifetime, so go ahead and live a lifetime. And enjoy it ... with honor and Love.

2006-08-21 19:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jonnie 4 · 0 0

Guess you dun have to be able to describe, you just know. It's just one of those things that dun need explaination, you just accept it. By thinking too deep into love, you get problems, so why ponder so much. It's so subjective that you probably won't even agree with how i feel about love.

Love leads to sex, but if you love the other party, you won't force her into it but let it happen on it's own. Mutual respect counts too.

=)

2006-08-21 18:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

So how do you know its love and not that other thing? When you feel like that for months or years and not just a few days or weeks. Yeah it is nature's way of tricking us into reproducing, but when it really is love, its fun.

2006-08-21 18:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by professor x 2 · 0 0

Love is the invention of the chivalric romances. It has taken a hold on women that I don't believe can be broken now. They have a weapon with which to bedevil men unless the man won't play. If that is is the case, then the man quickly finds himself bereft of female companionship.

2006-08-25 10:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sophist 7 · 0 0

Oh believe me you'll know!
A crush is a temporary love of an adolescent, and love is a deep feeling of sexual desire and attraction that is a strong positive emotion of regard and affection.
Love is a beautiful feeling and when love hits you there is nothing you can do about it. Love happens!

2006-08-21 18:51:01 · answer #11 · answered by Zeta 5 · 0 0

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