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i need some advice. i am so very jealous of all the girls that my b/f talks to. it is ruining our relationship. what can i do?

2006-08-21 18:35:42 · 22 answers · asked by vomit heart 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Well, you can't expect him to stop talking to people just because you and he are together. If you are concerned that it might mean more than it is supposed to, then talk to him.
Good luck,Hon.

2006-08-21 18:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 1 0

You are right, jealousy will ruin your relationship. Has your boyfriend ever given you a reason not to trust him? If he hasn't then you need to let it go and realize that just because he talks to other women does not mean he wants them or loves you any less. Now if he is being flirty with them or inappropriate then I would definitely have an issue with it. But if not, then just try to deal with it. Jealousy is not good for you or for your relationship. Best of luck!

2006-08-22 01:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Jealousy is not but natural. However, over doing it usually ruins any relationship. Rememeber, that before going into a relationship, one of the factor why a person accepted someone (aside from love of course) is that he / she trusted that person.

Now, you have to trust your boyfriend otherwise, it will only shows that the relationships you are into is a one sided affair. Try to reverse the situation, and think what would you do if your boyfriend will be what you are to him.

2006-08-22 01:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by jlaniwan 2 · 1 0

1. Don't get jealous
2. Realize that just b/c your in a relationship your significant other is going to speak to people of the opposite sex.
3. Ignore it.
4. Tell him what you think.
5. Realize that getting jealous is stupid
6. If you don't change he is going to leave you.

2006-08-22 01:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

jealousy can really ruin a relationship.... you need to try and losen up...as long as they are just talking then do not worry about it...i really use to be the same way...i found it hard to trust after my first husband ....but you have to work on it..maybe you need to get someone to talk to about this...do you really see signs of him wanting these other girls...you have to trust , believe in him, love him, respect him, and he needs to be the same with you...and knowing that each of you are being faithful to each other...

2006-08-22 01:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by sanangel 6 · 1 0

If you want your relationship to work you have to trust him. I lost the love of my life because I idnt trust him and he got sick of it. Go to counciling and talk to someone about being insecure with yourself and what you should do about it. Be strong and dont push him to far or you could loose him forever. Good Luck, I know how you feel. You have to trust him if you love him. Remember he is with you not the other girls. He is with you because he doesnt want other girls. Hang in there.

2006-08-22 01:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by TAWNIE 2 · 2 0

show you have confidence being jealous only makes you look bad, because if he is doing wrong your still staying with him and if hes not then your making your self look like a fool.if you love him, trust should not be an issue remember if your meant to keep him there is no one who can do anything to take him

2006-08-22 01:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by maike j 2 · 0 0

Try to figure out why you have these feelings. Do you feel you are not good enough? Is he too flirty?

I would guess, either he's a jerk, or you have a self-esteem issue.

If he's a jerk, you don't need his crap.

If he's a good guy and you don't feel worthy for some reason, try telling him how you feel, and asking for his take on the situation. Remember, he is with YOU

2006-08-22 01:42:06 · answer #8 · answered by Tina K 3 · 2 0

Jealousy .. I feel that this reflects your self confidence .. you should learn to know yourself and trust it .. you should know that whoever is going to love you should love you for who you are and not because you are more beautiful or whatever than anyone else .. you should be loved for yourself!!!
if your boyfriend really loves you then I am sure he will never look at anyone else but you ... but if there is doubt in that .. then nothing will stop him from looking at anyone else .. so better know him now than later ..

2006-08-22 01:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by Ramrum 2 · 0 0

jealousy is a sign of insecurity.if you love him and he loves u you have no reason to be unless he has given you reason before has he? do u talk to guys?if not maybe u should is he the jelous type?find out then he will know how it feels to you when you do it.if there are insecurities in your relationship maybe you should move on because it is not healthy. i was jelious with my first husband i had good reason to be now with my second im not at all he can talk and hang out with who ever he wants i know hes coming home to ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-08-22 01:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by nvvlewis 3 · 0 0

either get over it or let it go.. If u are sure they are not doing the hanky panky then why trip. YOu might just be feeling left out. Have u tried being friends with the gir i bet if u did that he wouldn't want to spend time with her. One thing though dont make a mountian out of a mole hill.

or dont pole vault over mouse turds. :)

2006-08-22 01:41:14 · answer #11 · answered by Darius 1 · 2 0

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