i've been thinking i'm bi for a while, i wasnt sure so i only told a couple of friends. well my bf was looking at my emails, and he saw me telling them i was bi. he totally freaked out on me, he told me i was sick and goign to hell and that i probably want to do my sisters, i started crying and told him that regardless of my orientation i loved him right now so it didnt matter. cuase i think i fall in love with people regardless of their gender. he told me that if i ddint want to b bi, then i wasnt, and that i just thought other girls looked hot, but didnt love them.
i felt depressed, but i didnt make a fuss cuz i didn't want to upset him. but now im not sure at all of my orientation, cuase in my heart i still think im bi...
2006-08-21 18:29:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You gotta do what makes you happy. Follow your heart, if you really believe you're bi, then you very well may be. If your bf doesn't support that, dump his *** because he's an ignorant, narrow minded fool.
2006-08-21 18:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are attracted to girls and the thought of the activities you might get up to together, then you could very well be bi.
However you should maybe explain more clearly to your bf that, whilst you two are together, that you will be faithful to him. People tend to have an idea that bi-folk are an adulterous bunch. You should also explain that as you two are together that it is him you are focussing your attention on and that your relationship with him is as purely hetero as it would be were you not bi.
Unfortunately, if he's not able to come to terms with this, then you'll probably end up better off without him.
Best Wishes
2006-08-21 22:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know i think you fall in love with the person not the gender. i agree with you. i've come to the conclusion i am bi because a girl can float my boat and the next thing you know its a man....i was curious till i tried. when i made love to a woman the first time i loved it and wanted more...so then i knew that is it, i am bi....so try being with a women. maybe you like the idea of being bi, but actually being with a women could be different. maybe you aren't. you don't truely know till you find out! good luck and stay safe!
btw you aren't going to hell! you are normal and curious, there is nothing wrong with that!
2006-08-21 18:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Forgive me for saying it, but to me the important question is not whether you are bisexual. The really important question is why tolerate an individual who is going to spew that much hate and intolerance in your direction? Think of the future, and what this person could do to any children you might eventually have, and realize you deserve the best!
2006-08-21 18:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mark L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds like an intolerant prick.
Would you want to spend your life with someone so hateful and who doesn't appreciate and even hates who you are? And why the hell would he be checking your email? That is a definite breach of privacy and trust.
You are not sick.
You are not going to hell.
G-d made you this way and He loves you no matter what.
Don't listen to what he tells you. Only you know what you want and who you love.
2006-08-21 18:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you love him be with him.If your "bi "its rough but be faithful to the one your with.Personally I think you wont end up with this guy,he'll always through this up to you and if you split get all the experimenting out of your system and decide what sex your happiest with.You only have one life to live,live it with someone you love then you will think of no other.Good Luck
2006-08-25 16:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by mustang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find yourself sexually attracted to both males and females, the chances are you are bi. There is nothing wrong with it. Be who you are and NEVER let anyone tell you how to live your life! Your a great person for been open to love from anyone!
2006-08-21 18:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOU KNOW FIRST OF ALL MAYBE YOU NEED TO BE WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS AND HOW IT MAKES U FEEL I KNOW FOR MYSELF I HAVE HAD 2 DIFFERENT 3-SOMES WITH TWO DIFFERENT GIRLS AND MY BOYFRIEND THE FIRST ONE I FREAKED OUT AND THE SECOND ONE I ENJOYED SO MUCH I SOMETIMES FANTASIZE ABOUT GIRLS AND ENJOY WATCHING GIRLS IN A PORN MORE THEN WOULD A MAN I ALSO ENJOY GOING TO STRIP CLUBS AND WATCHING WOMEN VERSUS MEN BUT I WOULDN'T SAY THAT I'M BI-SEXUAL AT ALL I THINK THAT IT IS NORMAL TO FANTASIZE ABOUT THE OPPOSITE SEX AND DONT' BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF ONLY U KNOW WHAT SEX MAKES U HAPPY FOR ME I KNOW THAT IT IS A MAN THAT I WANT TO BE WITH AND NOT A WOMEN NOT TO SAY THAT I CAN'T HAVE 3-SOMES WITH OTHER WOMEN AND MY BOYFRIEND AND ENJOY WATCHING THEM DOESNT MAKE ME BI-SEXUAL
2006-08-21 18:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by happy girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not bisexual. But you have been influenced by our society into thinking that you could be. Just because you think other women are pretty or attractive doesn't mean you are attracted to them in a sexual way. God did not create human beings to be attracted to the same sex for sexual reasons. If we are it is because we have allowed our minds to be influenced by an evil society.
2006-08-21 18:37:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
if u think about girls alot then u probably are , the only way to find out is to try, u never know , u might be happier with a girl then a guy
2006-08-21 18:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by hunny bunny 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋