i have said i will change in the past and never did. we have been together for 3 1/2 yrs.
we have a 2 yr. old girl. she said she is sick of making excuses to stay together. our problem has been financial hardships since we have been together. she did want to have a family with me but now i don't know. i don't want to lose her. i will do anything to change my angry ways. any advice will be greatly appreciated.
2006-08-21 18:10:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your problem is not the finances, so you need to start by being honest with yourself.
If you really want her back you need to genuinely change, not pay lipservice like you have in the past. Are you actually prepared to do that? Really?
Also, when apologising, be specific. What are you apologising for? What have you done, how did it affect the other [person/people concerned, how you intend to redress this and how you will deal with it much better next time.
2006-08-21 18:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to show your girl your going to change than you need to walk the walk. Stop talking and making empty promises. Pipe dreams are for crack heads so stop selling her the same old sob stories.Be a man of your word.Man up! If you want to keep your girlfriend now is the time for a plan of action. Map out the pro & cons of your life and get help where you need it. Take the Proper steps. And if your girl hasn't already hit the door, include in this so that she'll see you are really about being the man that she needs and making needed changes.
2006-08-22 01:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple. If you are truly sorry and if you are truly willing to change, then all you have to do it change! Change your bad ways, let her know, show her. Find the effort and courage in you to change for both your girlfriend and your daughter. If you don't want to lose her, then do something about it. If there's a will, there's a way. Best of luck.
2006-08-22 01:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by lauburton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL I AGREE STOP SAYING YOUR GOING TO CHANGE IF YOUR ONLY GOING TO CHANGE FOR A SHORT AMOUNT OF TIME THEN GO BACK TO YOUR OLD WAYS. HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT THAT MAYBE U COULD USE SOME COUNSELING FOR YOURSELF MAYBE ITS ISSUES THAT YOU HAVE ABOUT YOURSELF THAT MAYBE YOU CAN TAKE SOME MEDICATION TO HELP LEVEL YOU OUT?? BUT YOU WILL LOSE HER AND IT WILL BE TO LATE AND NOW YOU HAVE A FAMILY AND THAT SHOULD MAKE YOU EVEN MORE WANT TO CHANGE AND YOU DON'T WANT YOUR CHILDREN GROWING UP WITHOUT BOTH PARENTS IN THE HOME DO IT FOR YOURSELF FIRST THEN YOUR FAMILY THEY SAY " IF YOU CAN'T LOVE YOURSELF FIRST THEN HOW ARE YOU SUPPOSE TO KNOW HOW TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE????" ITS SOUNDS LIKE YOU LOVE HER AND WANT THINGS TO WORK SO STOP SOUNDING LIKE A BROKEN RECORD AND STEP UP AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT
2006-08-22 01:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by happy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are willing to change then get counseling for yourself and after a while then do the counseling thing for the relationship. It will help, but you have to really want to change and show her you have in order to make it work. Ask yourself " Do I really love her and do I really want to be with her," and if you answer those with yes then you will find a way to make it work.
2006-08-22 03:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by piperandfrog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you weren't this same person you are now when you all met so maybe you should try go back to that and really change into the person you need to be for your family
2006-08-22 01:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fallign in love is hard and so is falling into a relationship but as you now see keeping ones hard try to think back to cute thinks u did when you started going out her fav song her fav food her fav things and just reasure her that you will do your best and if she cant do it for you you do have a child who is more important then both of you so u need to work it out
2006-08-22 01:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by herestothenight82006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to imagine your life without them because thats where your heading. everytime you are getting angry imagine that, looseing your whole world and never getting it back! dont use the word sorry anymore im sure you have abused it already dont say to her what your going to do show her, bring her roses eveytme she looks at you smile let her know what she means to you dont give up
2006-08-22 02:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by maike j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first u have to change for real, u must listen to her & see wht she really wants.
it will take rime for her to believe that u have changed so wait, & give as much as u take & b supportive to her desigens, money was never the main problem
2006-08-22 01:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by i dont know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actions speak louder than words. you've done the talkin', now do the walkin'. And other cliches like that
2006-08-22 01:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by bandido 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋