Over the summer break, this guy that i liked had sent me this quiz, at first the quiz was simple like do you like me? or would you go out with me? but then the questions got sexual...i went to my friends for help and they said to tell him how i felt..so i did, well the part about me liking him..well as time went on, he took the quiz and said yes to all the sexual questions...keep in mind we're both 14...then he asked me if i would do it...i wasnt...but we kept talking on the phone and i kept talking to him because i wanted to know why he wanted me to be his first...when he didnt like me the way i did him, and he knows there are many other girls who like him, he said that I was the only girl from school or anywhere that he trusted, and then he said that he wanted to do it with a girl who liked him for more than the fact that he was "good looking", and everything was fine, until he asked me again, and i said i wasnt going to..because he wanted it as "friends with benifits" and not only
2006-08-21 17:58:59 · 50 answers · asked by Becky♥ 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
am i not up for that, im not ready for sex, or taking the risk of a baby, well school started today, and him and his friend came up to my friends and he was talking to them while i was there, COMPLETELY ignoring me, he didnt make eye contact with me, but i couldnt even make eye contact with him, i have 2 courses with him, and he avoids me, and he hasnt said ONE word to me...it hurts because even though i feel he was trying to use me, part of me still likes him, because i liked him for so long...there were also things i want to know...was he serious about him trusting me? i mean i know that most guys are just interested in sex....and If he really was trying to use me...well, i was wondering what i should do? my friends say i should confront him...but its just so hard for me... is there any other way? If so what should i say to him?
and sorry for this being posted in this section...i wasnt really getting answers in any other section...
2006-08-21 17:59:43 · update #1
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2006-08-21 18:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by jcesar 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My god. Him ignoring you is the biggest god damn favored you will ever get. If i were you and this guy even asked about the sexual stuff, id show him how big the blade of my knife is and how easily i could chopped off his little pecker.
Have some respect for yourself ! Some ******* guy says this to you and you like him? Listen i don't mean to be an *** hole but come on now. But i have to give you credit for saying no, alot of girls wouldn't and at 14. WAY to young. 16 or 17 is young. 14 is insane.
Stay away from him and his friends. Hes nothing but absolute slime. Sounds like a future rapist. Dont trust him.
Over all, have some respect for yourself. Don't take empowerment in taking off your clothing for the guys, but rather being a little conservative, its more rewarding in the end. And you will attract guys that are not assholes.
I speak to you as a little sister and a guy who's bin there. I promise i know what I'm talking about.
2006-08-21 18:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you ignore him and move past this. Get some great books and read up on the differences between men and women. Get yourself some good info. -- Dr. Phil is good for a start. Get to a good bookstore/library. Ask a librarian even!
Believe it or not, in just a few short years you will not even remember ANY of this nonsense!!!! It will all be meaningless - all the silly little details. HONEST!!
You just need to get through high school and then you can enjoy the rest of your life. And take the time to find out who you really are. Take sex slowly and very very seriously.
Just try to be kind each day, to enjoy each day you have and smile a lot. Don't worry about jerky, confused young boys. Move on, sister - and fugettaboutit!!!
2006-08-21 18:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by mammma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't have sex until you meet the right one ! You are 14 that is still young,you have all the time in the world,go to school,get ahead that way when you do meet Mr.right you can already be set up for having a family ! Your first time is something you can only give it away once and you want to make sure that the guy you choose is the one !!!
2006-08-21 18:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by midnightsmokerchic23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young I applaud you for not having sex. Of course, when i was your age the thought never crossed my mind.... My how times have changed and I am only 30. As life goes on you will find out that in hindsight that you will be glad that you made that choice, no matter how much you think that you like a guy. Don't let it bother you if he is ignoring you. You are still young, enjoy life you'll soon find out that some boys and men both act incredibly immature and until one of them proves their maturity to you they are really not worth your aggravation worrying about them. Enjoy life the way you enjoy it and doing the things that you enjoy doing. One day you will meet a guy when you are older that is worthy of your time and appreciates you for the spirit and beauty in and out that you poccess.
Ignore this guy and act like you don't care and that you could care less about whether he talks to you or not.... Don't act like you care... This is will most likely get his attention.
2006-08-21 18:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by jj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well well he is a player and he knows that. I am glad you didn't have sex with him, and please don't i mean ever! You are only 14 you are not even suppose to worried about sex or guys. Just be focused on your school all the other stuff can come later.I started to think about guys senior year in college, and i am telling you to wait and not to rush yourself on dating and drinking and all other crazy things is worth it. The other thing don't worry if he is not talking to you he is just being a boy that is how they are. He is trying to make you feel bad. Just ignore him and hang out with your own friends. you will be fine just focus on your school work, that is what is going to make you happy in the future not the boys. Good luck!
2006-08-21 18:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lady-bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, he isn't worthy. You sound like you've got a good head on your shoulders and you realize you aren't ready and you realize that he wanted to use you. If that weren't the case and he really cared about you he wouldn't ignore you.
He's at the age where it's all about trying to score and compare notes with his friends so he can brag about how many girls he's boned or gotten to give him a ********. The best you can do is ignore him and his immaturity. If I were you I would tell myself daily that he no longer existed. There'll be someone out there who'll really like you for you and respect the fact that you aren't ready and still treat you well.
2006-08-21 18:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this boy's intentions were just to use you, why does his opinion about you matter? I know it's hard when a person you like disappoints you or fails to meet your expectations. Don't confront him. It isn't worth your effort and your feelings will probably end up getting hurt worse than they already are. Give him the cold shoulder and hold your head high. Good for you for not giving in or falling for his game. You can walk away from this experience knowing that you made the right decision.
2006-08-21 18:07:09 · answer #8 · answered by The Apple Chick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think the best way for you to get closure on all of this is to ask him, there is no harm in asking him something you basically already know the answer to. if he is a true friend and really did trust you than he will not be offended, he knows he was wrong or else he wouldn't be acting as childish as he is. You have a good head on your shoulders you know the difference between what you want and what you need... .you need a good out come in life and you want true friends, it is just simply sorting them out!! you have done nothing wrong and shouldn't feel bad for doing the right thing...
2006-08-21 18:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give into temptation princess... Obviously that guy is a jerk.. I am a straight men, and I know a lot of guys just liking someone so he can have sex with that individual... Wait till you're ready... Don't even care if he doens't talk to you or make eye contact. As far as I know he lost one girl that in the future will make a perfect girlfriend or wife as you are willing to wait for sex after marriage. Be positive and always be proud if you still kept your virginity as it will somewhat tell something about your personality.. Just remember you are too young to have sex, don't give into temptation and keep in mind that girls who have sex just for the FUN of it are called sluts... You don't want to be labled as a SLUT don't you so give your name a reputation to stand up. Be safe and Forget about the negative people, specially that guy who wants you to have sex just FOR 'HIS OWN' (key word:HIS OWN) BENIFIT.
2006-08-21 18:18:22 · answer #10 · answered by I'll_give_u_10pts_if_u_answe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was/is using you and what's more, if his wanting to be close to you was all tied to your letting him have sex with you, then you do not need that type of person. If a person will be your friend or whatever ONLY if you have sex with them, then that is a really weak relationship, don't you think. But life is like that and you should always be wary of peoples' motives and why they want to be your friend. People are not very truthful and will tell you anything they think you like to hear just to get what they want. And, when they get it, they are gone and you are left holding the bag. Basically what he was saying to you was that he would only be your friend and such if you would have sex with him. Imagine that. Don't be so gullible.
2006-08-21 18:10:01 · answer #11 · answered by Tony T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋