How do you stop grieving over a friend thats been dead for almost 6 years now?

Question

My best friend died of a hole in her heart in 4th grade and i havent been able to stop grieving over it. im in 10th grade now.can some one help me plz.

Answer 1

The hardest thing to do in life is to let go of the guilt of being among the living while one that you love is dead. Do all the things that you dreamed of together while she was alive. You don't have to let go of her to let go of the sadness that her loss creates. You just have to remember who you were together and see that you life should be more for knowing someone so special. What would you want for her if the situation was reversed? Answer that and you will have the answer to your grief.

Answer 2

I don't think anyone ever really completely gets over the fact that someone they really care about is no longer around. Even though you can't see her, there's no doubt that she comes around you in spirit. Just remember all the times you've had together, that's what she would want you to do. As for ideas on how to stop grieving, just try to keep busy to help you keep your mind from thinking so much about what happened. Try not to force yourself into stopping the grieving process though, it'll only make things worse. It's natural to grieve and the length of time for it to pass is different for each person.
Hope this helps. =)

Answer 3

you know its so normal for people who just lost someone they love to grieve every once in a while. Of course, the experience is painful..and the pain strikes the most when they get to recall their past moments together. That's why I wont be surprised that you are still in pain after 6 years. I just hope that you dont let the pain take its toll on you...I suggest you focus your attention on other things like sports, arts, crafts, etc. so as to help you ease the pain little by little. And, this one is very effective i've done this before, put all your pictures together in a box and put it in a place where you cannot easily see it, say, in your basement or under your bed, inside the farthest cabinet in your house, etc. In that way, you can avoid looking at your pictures and reminisce over it once more. This will be very difficult in the beginning, but once your attention is focused on other things and as long as there is nothing that reminds you of her in your bedroom..then everything will be fine! Goodluck!

Answer 4

It might help to do something to honor your friend. Maybe you can volunteer at a hospital? Maybe visit children with cardiac (heart) problems?
Or maybe you can plant a tree in a public park in your friends memory? Or buy a star and have it named after that person?
These are just a few ideas. But instead of grieving the loss of your friend. Celebrate, in some way, the life they lived.
I will remember you in my prayers *hugglez*.

Answer 5

That must have been very traumatic for you. They should have had grief counsellors at your school to talk to you and help you through that. I think you should talk to a counsellor at school now and tell them what you are going through. They can help and you really need to talk about it. Just talking about it and letting your feelings out is a good healing point.

Post traumatic stress can hit even years after something has happened. Maybe current things in your life keep sending you back to that point in time. You really need to talk to someone who can help you through this. Death is a part of life, as terrible as it is, one has to make peace with the loss eventually and carry on. That's not to say you will ever forget, but your friend would not want you suffering this way for her.

Answer 6

you will never get over the loss of your friend, over time the grieving is eaier but you never forget. try going to her grave site on her birthday holidays just any day and sit and talk with her, tell her how you feel, tell her you dont want to feel like this all the time but you cant help it take some flowers to her tell her you miss her and maybe you will be able to find some peace in yourself so it wont hurt so bad good luck

Answer 7

Hi Diva,,,, look .... I know when your young its hard to understand why someone your age passes away....
The older you get,,, you learn that there is no guarantee of a long life here.... someone can go at any time.... so make the best of each day here.....
Tell yourself,, that even though you miss your friend,, and you always will they are not gone,,, because you remember them... and what they ment to you.... and that they are in a better place now than we are.....

You have a long life ahead of you.. and more trials to come.... this is just one speed bump in the growing up process.....hang in there,, you will be ok,,, i promise you.....

good luck

Answer 8

Poor thing. I do hope that life brings you friends who can bring comfort, even if the memories may never fade.

If you're not comfortable with medicine, why don't you try Bach flower remedies. Perhaps counselling, or even spending time with those in need may help you to see the world from a different light.

She's gone, but you're still here. The best thing you could do for her is to live your life fully.

Answer 9

Death is the only reality, the truth in life. One should give respects from the heart to the departed and then carry on the pathway of life. Let the road behind be an experience and the road ahead your deeds to come. Now is where you are acting. Do not let go this 'now'.

Answer 10

It's a process. Let yourself cry when you need to. Don't try to supress the tears. While you're crying Pray and ask God to heal the pain. He will !! I lost my father when I was 10, and it took many years to heal from the loss. It wasn't until the past two year actually, when I really drew closer to God that the most amount of healing took place. I'm 27 now. Take care.