What do you think should i do???

Question

Over the summer break, this guy that i liked had sent me this quiz, at first the quiz was simple like do you like me? or would you go out with me? but then the questions got sexual...i went to my friends for help and they said to tell him how i felt..so i did, well the part about me liking him..well as time went on, he took the quiz and said yes to all the sexual questions...keep in mind we're both 14...then he asked me if i would do it...i wasnt...but we kept talking on the phone and i kept talking to him because i wanted to know why he wanted me to be his first...when he didnt like me the way i did him, and he knows there are many other girls who like him, he said that he was the only girl from school or anywhere that he trusted, and then he said that he wanted to do it with a girl who liked him for more than the fact that he was "good looking", and everything was fine, until he asked me again, and i said i wasnt going to..because he wanted it as "friends with benifits" and not only

am i not up for that, im not ready for sex, or taking the risk of a baby, well school started today, and him and his friend came up to my friends and he was talking to them while i was there, COMPLETELY ignoring me, he didnt make eye contact with me, but i couldnt even make eye contact with him, i have 2 courses with him, and he avoids me, and he hasnt said ONE word to me...it hurts because even though i feel he was trying to use me, part of me still likes him, because i liked him for so long...there were also things i want to know...was he serious about him trusting me? i mean i know that most guys are just interested in sex....and If he really was trying to use me...well, i was wondering what i should do? my friends say i should confront him...but its just so hard for me... is there any other way? If so what should i say to him?

Answer 1

You should kick him out of your life. You can see what is going on. He was just trying to use you for sex. Have nothing more to do with him and make sure your friends don't either. By the way, I think you behaved very maturely throughout this whole debacle.

Answer 2

well, the best thing you can do is confront him about it. i know it's hard, but once you know the truth from him face to face then you'd be able to tell whether he's just in it for sex or something else. keep in mind that there are other guys out there that you could like. i mean, you're only 14 and you've got a lot of years ahead where u can find that guy who would like you for you. tell him how you feel towards what he's asking you and how you're not the kinda girl who would do something like that at this stage of your life. make sure you make him realise where you're coming from and find out the reasons why he wants to have sex at his age. if he uses the line 'everybody's doing it', then he's just trying to make up an excuse because everybody your age isnt doing it but people who are more older and mature are and people who say they are who are your age are most likely lieing to try to make out that they have. tell him that if he really likes you regardless of in the way of how a guy likes a girl or as friends, that he should respect your decision and not take it personally. tell him you'd still feel the same way if other guys approached you and asked you the same thing. good luck.

Answer 3

Okay, I don't want to corrupt your mind because love is not a game. But I hope you understand this. YOU WON. In this life you will meet many many people who want to hurt you or use you. When you don't allow that to happen, you win. In 20 years, if you even still think about this boy, you will have the knowledge that you didn't give in to peer pressure and do something that you knew in your heart was wrong. This boy is pissed off because his charm didnt work, now he is trying to use guilt. Pooey on him... Congradulations on standing up for what you believe in! Just ignore him, he will either come around or find someone else to annoy. If he doesn't end up being your friend, he wasn't a friend worth having anyway!

Answer 4

honey, you're so young and I'm glad you found out what he was really like and that he wasn't being sincere about his intentions. Please don't even think of confronting him, he's not worth it. Make him feel insignificant when he's around you and your friends. He's a very selfish kid that thought he could take advantage of a sweet person like you cuz he's used to having the admiration of many girls. Ignore him right back and don't show him that you're hurt. I hope you'll find some other nice guy to go out with or just be friends with. Don't rush yourself into a serious relationship and especially into a romantic one, geesh, you're too young! Just have fun and enjoy your youth. Good luck

Answer 5

Good for you. Do nothing. Do not attempt to talk to him. Be patient and I'll bet you will see that he has mysteriously found another girl that is "the only one he can trust". If you stand strong I'll bet you will see him for a total jerk within a few weeks.

Answer 6

It's not good enough to "just ignore him" or to think that you "have won." You need to get into his face, tell him what he did wrong and not to come near you again. That's called "finished business."

It's too bad you don't have a brother or someone that could do it for you, and possibly push him up against a locker while talking to him.

Answer 7

let him know that you dont want anything to do with him like that. friends dont use other friends like that. it is just plan stupidity. wake up before he rapes you becuase you arent going to give him what he wants. let go of him. you will find others who will like you the way you do. dont let him walk all over you. take control now and you will see what happens. good luck

Answer 8

he is not a good guy actually...he just wants sex from you...and now its a good thing that hes avoiding you.