is it normal to feel dirty after sex? like not physically dirty, though. Because with me and my boyfriend after we're done, i feel just...dirty...i enjoy it during it, but i get this weird feeling afterwards.. does anyone feel this way? its not because im too young or something, and its not my boyfriend, its me. will this pass?
2006-08-21 16:45:10 · 11 answers · asked by Marie 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
i should probably add that nothing happened to me when i was younger, sometimes my boyfriend does things that only pleasure him, but i dont wanna say anything to him..
2006-08-21 16:55:33 · update #1
you may just be having feelings of guilt associated with sex, could be your upbringing, religion, personal or family beliefs....it isnt "abnormal" but you shouldnt let yourself carry around the shameful feelings because there is nothing wrong with making love to your partner. If you have doubts, then maybe you arent really ready and should give it a break and think things through. I think over time, if you stay with your boyfriend, you will become more comfortable with yourself and your sexual activity.
2006-08-21 16:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by Fade__Out 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, I had a boyfriend who did the "If you love me, you'll do this with me" type thing. The only affection I ever got from him was when he was doing sexual things with me. Thank God I never actually slept with him.
That said, after I got out of that relationship - he was the first person I ever did things like that with - I always felt dirty and bad when I was doing things like that. I cried every time, even just by myself.
I don't cry anymore now unless it was a particularly intense experience, but I do still feel dirty sometimes. You just have to remember that you're with someone you love and care about, and that you're not doing anything wrong. It'll pass eventually, just be kind to yourself.
2006-08-21 23:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by silvershard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will pass, if you want it to. It's a free-will planet, and we choose to feel the way we feel. Huge responsibility we've taken on there. Are you judging yourself? By your own standards or somebody else's? You probably have during-sex expectations of the way you want to feel, and that probably usually works well for you. Try forming or replacing your after-sex expectations with feelings of joy. Visualize yourself comfortably nestled in your boyfriend's arms and feeling connected and loved.
2006-08-21 23:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by ohio healer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means you're too young to be doing this. Children shouldn't be having sex for a lot of reasons. Little boys talk you into doing things that prositiutes do and you think it's normal....you're putting the streetwalkers out of business by becoming one..wise up girl!
2006-08-21 23:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's normal, just tell him that u r feeling dirty, so he will give u the answer
2006-08-22 03:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by thila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to feel this way I would talk to a psychiatrist. They can help you bring out why you have these feelings.
2006-08-21 23:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel dirty
2006-08-21 23:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by Happy_Wheatland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something happened to you when you were younger, this would be normal.
2006-08-21 23:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might it may not it just depends i feel the same way you do and im 31 I have to wash up everytime we do it.I know where your comming from
2006-08-21 23:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by angel74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try chicks!!! And see how you feel then.
2006-08-22 00:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by jazzle151 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋