Does each div.parent pay half for 17y.o.'s plastic surgery? Large bump done while surgery to breathe better.

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My son needed septal surgery and asked if he could have the large bump removed also. The ins. pays for all but the surgeons fee; dr thought it was a good idea too. It was way out of proportion to his face. The divorce papers say each pays half uncovered medical expenses. In another part the papers it says both must agree on cosmetic or dental surgery which can change the integrity of structures.My ex's pattern is to only respond to calls or emails, even from my son, when very vocally opposed to things. I emailed all the details, costs,and asked for his input and opinion, etc.He didn't answer. He called my son and was excited for him about it, and asked when and where, to be there. I took this as him not objecting or being opposed to the surgery or anesthesia, and as him consenting.
I am about to send him his half of the bill, and expect a fight. They love to fight.
Someone said a judge might favor me since I've bought his two cars,paid insurance and gas, his tuition,graduation expen

Answer 1

you sound like you know what you are doing keep on being a good mom and looking out for your kid, i hope he helps you pay doctor bills good luck

Answer 2

I hear you. But try not to make this another finger to point at his dad to say "SEE WHAT A BAD FATHER YOU HAVE!" Just stop it. One year left...one. Send him his half...better yet, have your son hand deliver it for you. Maybe if his dad has to look at your son and refuse, he may not. Honestly...be glad your son even has a dad that is remotely part of his life. You could have been stuck with the whole bill...be happy that your not on public aid, they would have let your son die. Just another ghetto rat. Be thankful you have insurance. There is too much to be thankful in your position to be this uptight. Be thankful you have a job, that provides income...so many don't even have the chance.

Answer 3

Good luck on getting that money. However be happy in knowing that your son has a mother who does what's best for him, no matter what it cost her.