Why can't I have a orgasm when I masturbate. I have never been able to
I have never gotten off with a guy giving me oral.
I can't even have one when I am on bottom during sex.
The only way I can is if I straddle him and lean my hips forward so that my clit is resting on his pelvic area. The back and forth motion that I make while Im riding him drives my clit crazy, other wise there has been no other way.
I have only been with a few people (boyfriends) but im also just a 3 years away from 30 what is wrong with me, I wish I could do it myself SOMETIMES
2006-08-21 16:22:17 · 17 answers · asked by Sweetie 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I have to use clitoral stimulation when on bottom, I didn't discover this till I was about 26 and my bf at the time had me do it, I shot through the roof..lol.
But otherwise I to could only get off if I was on the top and at the same angle, unfortunately, my hip likes to go out, so, we have had to learn a few new techniques along the way.
As far as oral stimulation, have you tried using a small vibrator while he's doing it, this works for me.
My Dr. says it's because of the thickness of the skin, that my sensitivity level is not as high as other women's, and if it is such a major issue, there is a surgery that can be done to help increase the stimulation during sex...... talk to your Dr. if you have to, otherwise just be adventuress and relax and enjoy, don't try so hard....
2006-08-29 12:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by Torri * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that there is probably something else on your mind. Maybe you are even thinking about having an orgasm too much also, this will also inhibit your ability to climax. I highly doubt that there is anything wrong with you. You are just the type of woman that needs a mental and physical stimulation and unfortunately these type of things happens to many of us women. Just be happy that you know what it is like to have an orgasm. Some have never and will never have one.
2006-08-25 13:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After getting that information under your belt, do a reality check and make sure you're not expecting something orgasm may not be: the earth does NOT neccesarily shake, a person does not neccessarily pant, scream, moan, quiver, tremble, and so forth. Sometimes, orgasm can feel very much just like sexual arousal all by itself. Other times, it can be larger and can be more grand, but it isn't always, and it varies a lot from experience to experience.
2006-08-28 14:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way!! The trick is to masturbate while "on top". Do you use a vibrator? If so, try this... Fold a pillow in half (you'll need a little height), take a towel and roll it up and wrap it around the base of the vibrator, put that on top of the pillow. Now if you "mount" it, you'll be able to rub on it like you would during sex. I find its easier with 2 pillows for more height and if I have a blanket or something to lean forward on. Good luck.
2006-08-28 01:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by ncladams 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a date with yourself...a nice home alone evening with a favorite food and drink , a new movie or a sexy book and music, perhaps a new toy?, relaxing hot bath, oh and pick up some new body lotion.
Spend the evening lounging nude or with a sexy teddy.
If you relax and enjoy the experience you might just make up for some lost time...multiples
( you need to start early in the day thinking and planing /dreaming about the evening that awaits you )
Good luck
2006-08-22 05:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound pretty normal to me. I'd say there are quite a few women out there that have the same experience. But, it seems that you've already found the solution. Why don't you just get in your favorite position and go for it. I know that men love that one, too, so unless your boyfriend has a problem with it (why would he?) do what works!
2006-08-27 10:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by Aught 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think of using a vibrator? A vibrator is a girl's best friend, LOL. It works for me. There are alot of variety of vibrators out there, look online, believe me you will not be disappointed. Especially with the ones that you can just massage your clit with, mmmm. What an intense feeling that is. Good luck.
2006-08-27 03:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are some women who can only have clitoral orgasms. and even then if the stimulation is not right, it still will not happen. i had the exact problem you do. my solution came in a package and is called a silver bullett. it is my best friend with and without my husband. the stimulation it creates on my clitoris is just enough to help me attain the orgasms i wanted to badly for so many years. you can buy these at most adult shops, and even order on ebay.
2006-08-25 22:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. there is orgasm adn ejaculation. an entire body multiply orgasmic lady needs to be with an injaculatory guy..it really is Tantra/Kundalini yoga and is indescribably delicious yet can basically be in a monogamous relationship between a heterosexual couple it quite is drug,alcohol, tobacco and meat loose.
2016-11-26 22:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not in to it enough, you have to find out just what is it that arouses you. Until then no man or nothing will give you a orgasm. Find that spot of yours and you'll know when you find it. I was like that I could only get off on top for years.
2006-08-21 16:31:48 · answer #10 · answered by Keylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋