i'm 34 and married for 12 years i have recently developed a high sex drive but i don't feel my husband is quite where i am ay however he has become extremly jeolous lately is he noticing the change in me? even though i do n;t feel he's where i am i do see him trying except lately i've been attracted to men i notice during shopping etc...does this mean i'm ready to move on?
2006-08-21 16:13:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are feeling like a man we do that all the time. I will be direct and honest with you it would be just plain stupid of you to move on just because you and your husband are not synced up together sexually. Ten years from now you won't have the high sex drive so then what? come on I know its hard to have to think being a woman but would you want your husband to say by just because the sex drive is higher then yours. Oh in ten more years his will be down, go figure.
2006-08-21 16:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not ready to move on. There are tough times in a relationship and you have to work through them. You may satisfy your urge by trying to move on but feel bad after and want everything to be the same again and it never will be. Talk to your husband. Give it time. Pleasure yourself for a while...that might help with the libido. Your sex drive is just on a different level than his. Work on it together...
2006-08-21 16:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're ready to "move on", as you put it. I think you're just feeling some feelings you haven't in a while and your mind is running away with ways to act on them. Even though hubby doesn't seem to be "keeping up", your thoughts and fantasies don't need to mean the end of your marriage. My wife and I have moved in quite opposite directions sexually since we've been married - I'm much more adventurous and sex seems to have no priority in her life. We make it through. Masturbation, porn, and the internet help. ;)
2006-08-21 16:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by mayorofsteveville2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you're bored. You can probably work something out sexually. Maybe do something incredibly kinky, something that you wouldn't normally do in front of him. It might repeak his interest and make him want you more. Try masturbating in front of him and using a toy. Maybe tie him up or bring another girl into the bedroom... i dont really know because ive never been in a relationship for that long. I just know that trying something kinky would turn me on a lot.
If all that doesn't work, then maybe you do need to move on.
2006-08-21 16:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't "move on" when you're married. You try to make things work. That's what "for better or for worse" means.
Marriage is not like a pair of worn shoes that you just discard when you're tired of wearing it.
Its a commitment. If you haven't done much to make it work, then you should. If all else fails, that's when you can say its over and its time to move on.
2006-08-21 16:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by ladyluck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so not if you still love him. You're going thru what men went thru in their teen. You've reached your sexual peak. Tell him you still love him and you just need to jump his bones more often. Maybe he needs to see the doc for a check up if he feel like his sex drive is dipping below whats normal for him. I'm 35 and my poor hubby has to take nap on his days off just to keep up with me. He is eating alot more trying to keep up his strength but he is enjoying my sexual peak almost as much as I am. Hope this helps.
2006-08-21 16:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's time to talk to your Husband. Let him your feelings. A lot of women's sex drive seem to go up in their 30's.
2006-08-21 16:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, you have entered your sexual peak. For women, peak is late twenties, early thirties. For men late teens to early twenties. It is natural but wanting to move on may or may not be a part of it. Why not discuss with your gyn? Have fun. Peace.
2006-08-21 16:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya if your looking then probley yes. I am going threw the same thing right now and I know deep down it time to move on.....
2006-08-21 16:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so you just need to help your husband with different things so you and he dont get bored
2006-08-21 19:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋