I have only had straight relationships, but have been feeling like I missed out on all sorts of fun teenage exploration with my male friends. So I've been wanted to try some things, like jerk-off with another guy. I've been trying to meet up with people on craigslist, but keep chickening out at the last minute.
How can I get over the initial fear?
2006-08-21 15:21:44 · 13 answers · asked by sdclmail 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
just try it with some one u dont no and if u want can nvr c again
2006-08-21 15:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by x1yofuzzy1x 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Realize that it's normal to feel this way, normal to feel the fear, and normal to feel these feelings. Second, after you have chatted with a guy online, set up a bit of phone time so you can talk to him about what you are wanting to do. If it goes as far as erotic phone talk, at least that is a step in lessening the initial fear. I have to tell you though, for a first experience, the initial fear is gonna be there, and you'll be shaky and nervous, and then it'll be over. Remember the first time you were with a woman? Same thing, but with bigger taboos, and worries about self-identity. Take your time, and do it on your terms. You deserve to be safe, and you deserve to do this in your own time.
2006-08-21 23:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by Mark L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to these weirdos. Fear is natural. Do you have anyone in mind? I suggest you get to know someone a little first...sex right off the bat can be really unsatisfying. If you meet a guy, go to coffee or dinner a few times before deciding to experiment.
It will come naturally. Don't force it. Above all, be safe!
2006-08-21 23:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Vincent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get over the initial fear of anything (public speaking, sex, sports, etc.) is to just do it. Sounds like the Nike commercial, but it's true. Once you've done something (even once), it becomes less daunting.
2006-08-21 23:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to say to yourself, "screw it" and look someone up and do it. You can meet guys who'll just sit there and jerk with you, or even guys who'll jerk for you or go down on you. There's a whole world out there for you to try. Just let it all loose and go for it.
2006-08-21 23:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone whom you truly trust about it, and see if they would agree to 'experimenting' with you. If at first you don't succeed, try try again. And if no one you trusts will consent to it, talk to someone you don't know, and that you'll never see again.
Best of luck to you!
2006-08-21 22:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by band_geek_til_2007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out of town for it. Stay in a hotel.
2006-08-21 22:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well, as my mother used to tell me..."do what you're most afraid of"--it'll get you over the fear part of it.
2006-08-21 23:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can become comfortable with the situation. Just please be very careful. You never know who's gonna be waiting for you. Oh, and use protection...
2006-08-21 22:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by James G 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go on webdate.com or sexsearch .com!
2006-08-22 09:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by david s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋