I have realized that I dont trust any of my past boyfriends, even though they have never given me any reason not to. I have been with the same person for over 6 years and he has been absolutely great and I have no reason not to trust him although situations will come up where I question him and he gives me a justified answer but inside I think 'Yeah right" I'm not distrustful in every situation but when I am and I aways let him know it and then it turns into a really bad scene. What causes someone to be so non trustworthy or jealous, even when your man does everything in the world for you and sticks by you even when you go PSYCHO???
2006-08-21 15:05:11 · 7 answers · asked by foxyraley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Were your parents trustworthy towards you? Did you ever feel abandoned? Did your father cheat on your mother or visa versa. Did either parent leave when you were little? This is where it starts. Our very first loves were our parents. Once your heart has been broken it is hard to regain the trust. Look into this more. I can see you are a seeker. You will find the answer.. keep asking!
2006-08-21 19:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling i go through the same thing with my man but the way we got together justify my actions even though he's really tryna make me believe him but da none trust can come from a lot of things like seeing what ur mother,family or friends have been through with men, maybe not having a father figure around and just seeing the kind of stuff men do in general and u just don't wanna be one of those women crying in the long run actually what ur doing is tryna protect urself. Like say if u always think he's cheating and he happens to do it years later or tell u years later that he has cheated it won't hurt that much if u already thought he was doing compared to thinking he's been faithful to u the who time. but give him a chance u say he doesn't give u any reason not to believe him. even when u think he's lying don't let him know keep it to urself because if he know u neva believe him that can kill a relationship if there's no trust in the relationship whats the point in being in it????
2006-08-21 15:21:24 · answer #2 · answered by powderjusblazin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did i used to date you?? LMAO just kidding, sorry couldnt resist...seriously though i spent 5 years in a relationship just like the one that you are describing here and eventually i got sick of the constant accusations and checking up on me/calling me a liar that i got fed up and walked. i blame it on tv, whenever a tv show is getting boring there is always either someone killed or cheating on someone else to try to boost ratings
2006-08-21 15:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by humantorch1270 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom may have showed you that she THOUGHT men were untrustworthy and you picked up on it.
I have a friend like that, when I pointed out that she sounded JUST like her Mom, she tried to STOP with those thoughts :)
2006-08-22 07:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by SeaShells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you hate yourself.
You haven't posted a question -- this is a cry for help.
2006-08-21 16:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're paranoid. i'm not a psycologist, but i play one in my bedroom. i don't trust you. i think you are being unfaithful and i don't even know you. you got some skeletons in your closet.
2006-08-21 15:15:52 · answer #6 · answered by xknyghtmayre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling and work on your self esteem
2006-08-21 15:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋