My husband told me he was not good for me and he wanted me to let him go. I did, after months of trying to save my marriage. But now since I let him go, he stops by the house when I'm not home, calls me just because( he didn't do that while we were married), or stops by the house just to make sure everything is alright. What kind of sh.. is that? Tell me what you think?
2006-08-21 14:46:13 · 11 answers · asked by punkin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To me it sound like he wasn't ready for a commitment. He still cares but if he asks you again to settle down don't be quick to say yes. You make him regret it. I know is cruel but is not fair that he put you through that and now he wants to be around. Why should u exist when he needs you and leave you when he don't? U need to decide if he's worth that.
2006-08-21 14:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sexy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels regretful, trying 2 come back but in difficulty facing u. That's the reactions he's showing. That's a possibility that he wants 2 come home!
What do u think, if this is true? Does he still deserve u 2 luv?
If u think that what he has done 2 u r forgivable, & u r willing 2 start a new life with him again, give him a chance 2 repent, accept him.Take him as new.
And I think that if he has the chance 2 step back in this house, which suppose is a home 2 him, he'll luv u & treasure u more than b4.
Good Luck, & God bless u 2.
2006-08-21 15:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by cancerlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation and can tell you that he probably feels that you are doing fine & becoming stronger on your own & he may not like that. He probably didn't think that you would move on like you are. Now, he may be having second thoughts. Be very careful because you don't want to have to go through all of the emotions of it again. Been there, done that! If you have let go & are ready to move on, then do so. Honestly, if it is meant to be then it will work itself out in the end. Just be careful not to get yourself hurt again. It's hard enough the first time you go through it don't put yourself through it again.
Good luck & take care of yourself. I know it is hard but time will heal you & ease the pain of it all.
2006-08-21 15:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by PattyW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two possibilities. Either he is trying to catch you in the arms of another man, or he is not sure about his decision to split up.
If he is trying to see if you have another man, just be sure to not bring a man to your home for a while. The ex will soon tire of this if he gets no satisfaction from it.
If he is not sure about his decision, he will keep this up until something or someone catches his attention and takes his mind off what he threw away.
The important part is you. How do you feel about him stopping by or calling? Are you upset by it? You can tell him to knock it off if it upsets you. Are you hoping to get back together? You may want to talk to him to see what is really going on.
2006-08-21 15:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is that saying "you always want what you don't have". He just wants to see if you will beg him back. Or if you are with someone else. He hasn't had closure, just tell him (if you want, of course) you have moved on and he needs to quit dropping by. You need your privacy and not this constant interruption in the life you are trying to create for yourself. You deserve that respect.
2006-08-21 14:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point blank...he still needs some connection to you. The question is...do you? If so, confront him and take it from there. If you don't...tell him to scadadle. Eliminating this game playing will discard wasting time for both of you.
2006-08-21 19:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by mtorstvet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband really didn`t think you would just move on He thought you would do the begging and he got fooled.I think he is in shock that`s why he checks in on you but be careful he is probably jealous also..
2006-08-21 14:56:42 · answer #7 · answered by marsha s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, i think that he just wants to see if you have someone else there. make him see you dont need him. after all hes the one who had something up his sleeve in the first place.
2006-08-21 14:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by geliz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think because he cares and wants to make sure your doing ok because he knows he hurt you by leaving. i still do it to my ex deep down i still love him but don't want him back but i just still care coz he's got a beautiful heart and was good to me.
2006-08-21 21:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by grumpy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds fishy to me
2006-08-21 14:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋