Isn't it exhausting to be nice all the time??

Question

Seriously, I don't mind good manners but am tired of being nice all the time. People take advantage of you and you end up regretting that u didn't kick that rude jerk in the nuts!
Are you nice or not? Pros and cons of each

Answer 1

Being nice, Pros: Moms brag on you at birthday parties, you're chosen to lead or participate in every youth project the church sponsors, teachers and school administrators point to you as an example of desirable behavior.

Being nice, Cons: The birthday boy and several of his friends beat the snot out of you after the party, other youngsters whose parents drag them to services on Sunday beat the snot out of you after church, at school, other kids trip you in the hall, you can't get a date, and the bullies beat the snot out of you every afternoon after class.

Being not nice, Pros: People hesitate to cheat or swindle you and, in fact, avoid you, you often get exactly what you want because you demand it, and the tough kids take you in as one of their own.

Being not nice, Cons: You don't make many real friends because not only do the cheats and swindlers avoid you, so does everybody else, you can't get a date because you're a demanding SOB, and soon you're calling someone to go your bail because the tough kids have gotten you into a mess of trouble.

Hmmm, sounds like being a congenial individual who sets and abides by reasonable boundaries and refuses to be taken advantage of may be the better way to go here.

Answer 2

Being nice is not very exhausting, I like to be nice to those around me, but at the same time I hate to be taken advantage of. So I try to balance it, depending of people personalities.

Answer 3

You got a point right there. I can't say that I'm the nicest person on earth as occasionally I may come across with horrible people during work/outside somewhere. Just as long as they don't come and agitate me at all cases, then I don't mind being nice to them.

Answer 4

I'm a mild mannered friendly guy next door ... being nice is just in my nature. It helps me to make friends and influence people.
Excuse me I think I'll go out and influence somebody's lights out.

Answer 5

i am a nice person,,i just have learned to back off from alot of people that way i don't have so many taking advantage of me

Answer 6

You say "people" and then "kick that rude jerk in the nuts!".
Not all people have nuts, only men. All women treat people very nice, right?!

Some facts about testicle trauma:
-It may cause the victim to throw up.
-It may cause the victim to passout.
-It may cause “testicular torsion”, by initiating a muscle spasm; this is rare but is a medical emergency, testicular torsion may not happen immediately after the trauma.
-Testicles move freely and are slippery to avoid trauma, but if the trauma sustained by the testicle is hard enough (50Kg), the testicle will POP(rupture), and then probably must be removed. This is rare, and usually is associated with sport injuries when not wearing a cup. Even when can be repaired, the resulting inflammation will turn most of the contents into permanent damaged material.
-Even a medium force trauma will cause the destruction of spermatozoa-production cells. It will not cause sterility because those cells are in massive quantities, however those cells do not regenerate, it is permanent damage. And if hit many times or too hard, it may cause infertility, because the sperm count/mobility must be acceptable in order to get a woman pregnant by natural means.
-Will also reduce spermatozoa production as a result of hormonal changes, one of those changes is testosterone reduction.
-May rupture major blood vessels, and draining the scrotum will be needed. Or microscopic veins inside the testicles, this will permanently destroy cells indirectly.
-In case of very extreme trauma, the testicle/s can swell for more than a weak, with resulting excruciating pain and severe damage from prolonged heavy inflammation. The swelling reminds me of mumps, but in the case of mumps it will cause sterility for sure, and the testicles(usually just one) will shrink too, very sad and scary.
-In some cases may cause the antibodies to start attacking the person own sperm.
-It even may cause death as result of PAIN, heart will fail right away or will begin to fail(heart beat will became fast and irregular, usually face and lips very white) until finally stops, this is called “neurogenic shock”, and it is not that rare like people think, most of the times the victim is saved because gets medical attention on time, it will need shocks to the heart using the defibrillator!.
-Among other symptoms, the victim will feel shock/panic/confusion/anger, violated/abused, embarrassment/humiliation; those feelings will be stronger if young; especially if they do not know or never heard about “kicking in the groin”. The victim may seem ok, but will try to hide those feelings. It depends on the person and from the situation. This will lead to Post-Traumatic Stress, the worse symptoms may only reveal a year lather! People forget about emotional trauma, but it is the worse, and will not go away like the physical suffering. All men that “like” the fetish called “ballbusting”, have some kind of mental or emotional disorder; and the most common cause for that is because it happened to them in the past, they are physiologically very ill, it may change their life’s completely. The emotional trauma of being assaulted in such a private area, or the physical suffering, or the fact that it is a barbaric act, should be more than enough for girls not to do that; but the sad truth is that the only thing that make some(not all for sure) girls think twice before doing that is the permanent physical damage.
-Physical violence it is only acceptable if you are trying to defend/escape yourself from someone that is trying to use physical violence on you, and you may only use the necessary violence to ESCAPE harm. And kicking someone in the groin is only “acceptable” if someone is trying to kill you, or rape you(only extreme EMERGENCIES), not because you are pissed off, and most certainly not for fun like it is most of the times, keep it a fantasy. Why you girls don’t tell your Dads what you did, I am sure they will be PROUD of you.
-Ironically, if someone is trying to kill you or rape you, probably is expecting that defense from you, and so you will not be able to kick him.
-This is becoming too popular, specially in schools, girls get sexually aroused by that!. Women look sweet, but…….they are very mean and cruel by nature, they just try to hide it, it is very sad. Lucky for women men are not very vindictive like women are, and men are not very aggressive towards women like women are towards men, in fact men are very protective towards women. Men like to see and touch women sexual organs, they do not like to hurt them or to see it happen to women.
Women are so much sensitive about their sexual organs and sexuality, but then do that to men and laugh!
-And nothing happens to these sex offenders because they are women, just one of many double standards and laws that always treat men worse!

“women justice” is sick, how about if it was the other way around?!!!!!!!
Girls answers regarding this issue are always disgusting!

Answer 7

well.... i think i'm a nice person, however i dont let anybody walk all over me. i believe in respecting the other person as they respect me. if they are being blunt, then blunt i'll be....

Answer 8

Try working in a hospital or customer service job. You head will blow up. §

Answer 9

who says you have to be nice all the time?

be a mixture of both...... nice and mean....

keep people guessing....

Answer 10

I'm too nice sometimes; so I know what you mean.