How do you end a marriage? What is the first thing you should say?

Answer 1

First of all, susieque is well worth being listened to. An angry, vengeful man can ruin you financially and other ways...be very careful.

Also, try to be as kind as you can. It's not going to be easy for the other person to hear. Be honest, but don't be accusing, angry or vengeful and don't react if he is.

Answer 2

Are you sure you want to end it? I guess you need to ask yourself why you want to end it, and see if it's something you can work through. Would some counseling or a weekend away with your spouse help? I just say give it your all before you end it. You married this person for a reason. It's easy to quit, but a lot of work to make a marriage all it can be, but the reward in the end is all worth it.

Answer 3

First of all, before you open your mouth to say ANYTHING,
since you are the woman in this relationship--make sure you have your financial fanny covered.
Plan the ending scenario and here is how badly it could go:
If you blab that you are leaving, or want him to leave, and if you have a joint checking/savings etc account--there is NOTHING to stop him from carrying out all the cash in either or all.
If you have shared credit cards in both names, but YOU are the one paying the bills, he could go out and charge up a storm and leave you high and dry with the new maxed card and nothing to pay it with!
Are you getting the pattern here?
Cover yourself. If the credt cards are in your name only--fine, if not, pay them off FIRST AND THEN CANCEL THEM.

MUTUALLY ACCRUED CREDIT THAT IS UNRESOLVED WILL FOLLOW YOU TO THE GRAVE AND BEYOND!!!

Make certain you have your own checking or savings account set up that he can neither attach nor access.
Suzy Orman is a financial specialist and leans toward educucating women in all areas of finance...for too many years men have been getting away with all nature of "my own" monies and if you earned it together under the same period of time, then 50/50 is the law in most places....JUST BE SMART AND COVER YOUR FANNY.
AFTER YOU DROP THE BOMB, HE WON'T LIKELY BE INTERESTED IN YOUR WELL BEING OVER HIS OWN.

BEST OF LUCK.
KEEP YOUR CARDS CLOSE TO YOUR CHEST.

Answer 4

Sit down and have a heart to heart talk and give your reason why you want out of the marriage. I was told by my ex he wanted out while i was in the delivery room giving birth to our second son. I hope you have a better time of doing this when i was told

Answer 5

My friend went to work one day and when he came home his wife had divorce papers on the kitchen table and had taken his SS Impala and traded it for a Toyota Camry. Told him he had to be out at the end of the week. He didn`t know weather to **** or go blind!!!

Answer 6

you cant' just end a marriage with one thing to say. It takes long long time/ or you can get all the papers upfront and ask him to sign.

Answer 7

ohhhh, that's a tough question. Honestly, I don't think anyone can really answer it but you. No one really knows your situation and what you feel in your heart.

Sorry I know that's not the answer you're looking for. All I can say is whatever you choose to say, be honest and be calm about it. It'll do no good to get into a screaming match.

Good luck hon.

Answer 8

"I don't think this marriage is working" would be the best line to get off the blocks, but be damn certain you do want to end it because once something like that has been said it cannot be unsaid.

Answer 9

Thats it....I want a divorce!!!! Unless you want to be more mature then you sit down and have a talk with them and explain your feelings and tell them you want a divorce. Good Luck

Answer 10

What is the first thing on your mind?