I was just wondering because I left and sometime I feel all t hese like butterfileis in my stomach,. I asked him to leave but he wouldn't. things wasn't right between us. I tried communication other things going on in our marriage it wasn't a marriage he told me and he didn't marriage me to take care of me. and he would just shut me out. I was tried and I left and took my kids with me. He moved about the complex near me. WHy. Ususal a man would want to get far away when their break up with their wife; I need to know whichi is worst wife leave husband or husband leave wife. please help me
2006-08-21 13:34:19 · 19 answers · asked by babymadison61904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is harder for the person who is being left behind, as they did not have a choice in which way the final say was going to play out. it does not matter which gender they happen to be.
2006-08-21 13:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, I don't think it matters. either one of you leaving would cause a sad situation, especially when there are children involved. If it didn't work, it didn't work, those things happen. Look at him moving near you as a blessing, the kids will have access to both parents all the time. Stop worrying about him trying to get back with you. I know you may be feeling guilty for hurting his feelings, but sooner or later he's going to come to accept that it just didn't work and start to move on...they all do.
2006-08-21 13:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think there is a "good way" to leave. Either way if it needs to be done then someone needs to be the person to step up. Sometimes it takes having to be the "bad" guy as I'm sure that's the way you feel for having left first. But if it was for everyones best interest then I'm sure he'll see the truth in what was done "one day".
2006-08-21 14:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter who leaves...one is not any worse then the other...it's the way it is...he moved close to you for a reason though...my mom left my dad once...she moved into an appartment...so did he..with her...she moved out and in with my brother...then my dad moved in with him as well....she couldnt' get away from him...so she ended up taking him back....it was/is a real shame she did...she would have been a happier person without my dad in her life...she wasn't strong enough though...some aren't....
2006-08-21 14:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither, in this situation. Leaving a marriage that is falling apart isn't worse for either to do. What would be worse is staying inspite of the unhappiness.
2006-08-21 13:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The impact,the shock,the suffering is equal in men and women,but some times women suffer more because always they want to keep the children.Men suffer too,I know,because I have friends men and women with this problem and both suffer too much for long time;until the wound is healing when the time is going.
2006-08-21 13:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think one is worse than the other. It really depends on who is being affected in the relationship...who is being hurt. My heart goes out to you, you sound like you are going through hell.
the last thing you should be pre-occupied with is "how bad it looks" that you left him. Try to focus on making things right...either in your marriage or in your life without him.
2006-08-21 14:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by sweets 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither is worse. You need to do what you feel right about it. Try going to counseling. There are a lot of churches that will offer family counseling for free, and you don't have to be a member. If he won't go with you, go by yourself. But above everything else, please take care of yourself and do what's best for your children. They need you right now.
2006-08-21 13:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by Tonya G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a close eye on this man. He may just be a control freak and not want you to be happy in any way. Keep close eyes on your kids and make sure they tell you when they are going to daddys and when they are going to be home. Make sure he doesnt stalk you.
And to answer your question: i dont think it matters as long as YOU are happy so dont think about it any longer.
2006-08-21 13:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and fix the marriage through prayer, church, and counseling. It is just as bad when one leaves the other. It's only acceptable when someone who is the victim of adultery leaves.
2015-03-27 17:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by Kenneth Vaughan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋