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are going through some things i was on my cell the other nite and he told me that i was talkin to other guy on the phone but i was not it was a female friend then he said he look at my phone when i was sleep and it was not the girl who i said it was my thing is why is checkin up on me like that it real serious ilove him with all my heart i cant cheat on him i work in the day and go home with our 3 kids he works from 10p.m.to 9 a.m. ineed help from a married coulpe or somebody that has a mind he so heated and me that i took off my ring

2006-08-21 13:25:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

12 answers

That fact that you are working conflicting schedules means he does get to spend time with you so his imagination is running away with him. You definitetly need to talk it out and ask him why he doesn't trust you. A marriage without trust will never work. Couples need time together and if he is working nights and sleeping days and you are doing the opposite than the relationship gets neglected. So he is feeling that if you aren't spending time with him you must be spending it with someone else. Talk it out and reassure him that you are faithful. Don't confront him or argue about it.

2006-08-21 13:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by meggiek97 3 · 1 0

Men are very insecure and immediately think the worse about their wives. They forget that most of the time it is the male that cheats. I'm sure your children are questioned by him and that he checks things out after you leave for work.

You need to meet the challenge head on and not by declaring your innocence. The more you protest it the greater his doubts will rise.

The two of you need to spend the time together with the kids asleep doing things to each other to build build the marriage not tear it apart. Get that heat back into things and show love in actions not words.

2006-08-21 14:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by old codger 5 · 1 0

your husband is insecure idiot and a control freak just because u are married he does not have the right to check up on u and tell u who u could talk to. us girls could have guys and girls as friends and if ur husban loved u and repected u he would let u be
friends with whomever u want he does not have a right to be possesive he does not own u u are your own person and u should do whatever u want
he needs to be a man and be a proper husband
he needs to grow up i have a man of 6years he lets me do what ever i want just as long as we are faithful and there is communication and trust there should not be a problem
and u should sit down with him and find out what is really bugging him and tell him how u feel communication

2006-08-21 15:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by Cat 4 · 0 0

i can relate a little. i work graves and he works day shift. first of all, usually when they are accusing you of cheating, they did it first (its called projection) they are feeling guily and are looking for you to do it so that they can feel better about it. that was the case with me. i never cheated but ended up catching him talking to his ex ..and found that he hit on 2 of my girl friends.

also, he may be trying to come up with something because he may want out of the relationship but doesnt have a reason to justify it. just be careful .. also, dont let him get controlling.. (ie: making comments about what you wear, who you talk to, or when you spend time with friends) remember no relationship should cause you to lose yourself .. you need to always hang on to your friends too because they are the ones who will be there when you need to be picked up. also, if you are trying to be everything he wants you to be and are not the happy person you used to be, you will end up stressing out from all the pressure because you are not being true to yourself. wishing you the best, take care

2006-08-21 14:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by sylonthego 3 · 0 0

I have always heard that if your man gets very suspicious without proper cause then he is usually the one cheating and he just feels guilty.

2006-08-21 15:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by youngtendaz36104 3 · 0 0

Jealousy is a monster without a brain. You need to seek counseling with him if you want to fix it.

Good Luck to You and God Bless!!

2006-08-21 13:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by msqtech 7 · 1 0

Sometimes the one who is cheating is the one who accuses there partner of cheating.

2006-08-21 13:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

maybe someone has said something to him about you or is just trying to ruin your relationship, you two need to talk and if that doesnt work then maybe you should be checking up on him....

2006-08-21 14:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon B 1 · 0 0

Both of you need to grow uo!

2006-08-21 14:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

maybe he is suspicious of you because he is not doing something honorable.

2006-08-21 13:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0 0

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