Hello all... I'm always afraid to think too much of myself.. so when someone says something nice about one of my talents, etc... I always brush it away and say it isn't true. When I do this, people think I have a really low self esteem and don't think anything of myself.. although if I accept it, or talk about something I'm good at, people suggest that I am conceited.. how much is enough, and how much is when to stop?
2006-08-21 13:16:59 · 12 answers · asked by justcallme-crazy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was like you but...I have learned to say thank you when someone goes to the effort of complimenting me. I feel better and they smile in acknowledgment that the compliment wasn't a waste of their time. Try complimenting other people and see that it is a little scary to give compliments and if people reject your compliment ...you feel regret and foolish. So put yourself in their shoes and just say thank you.
2006-08-21 13:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by toe poe gee gee oh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone compliments you just say "thank you" and leave it at that. Dont brush it off, just accept the compliment.
When you are talking about something you can do really well try to to just explain the story and not the talent. But no matter where you go or what you do in life there will always be someone who is jealous of you because of your talents so try to not let that bother you.
2006-08-21 20:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem too. i get called concieted even when i don't give them a reason to. and other people are always asking me why i think so badly of myself. it's weird. i act the same way around everybody. i can be having a conversation with two people, and one will think i'm concieted, and the other one will think i have low selfesteem. maybe it depends on the person. when i find out how to deal with this, you'll be the first one to find out, mean while, just don't care about what people say.
2006-08-21 20:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by and so it begins... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when complimented thank people graciously without downplaying it and smile and agree. if you are discussing something you are good at (and obviously interested in) anyone worth their salt and who cares about you in any way will enjoy discussing it with you and not call you conceited. People who do that are jealous, plain and simple. Friends are supposed to cheer us on always!
2006-08-21 20:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by mishel24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you are and are not.
If you are conceited, you can say it isn't`t true but the fact your not being honest will show through.Maybe not right away,but the more they are around you and know you they will pick up on it....
2006-08-21 22:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your saying, Your damn if you do and damn if you don't. When someone complements you on something just say thank you! By saying thank you they shouldn't think you are being conceited and if they do then obviously they are jealous!
2006-08-21 20:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you brag about it yourself then you are conceited.
If people compliment you, don't be afraid to take that compliment and gloat. In your case, be happy and say "Thank you"...but don't go on about saying how good you are at other things...
2006-08-21 20:21:34 · answer #7 · answered by Isabella 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not supposed to be putting yourself, you have to be proud of your good character traits and talents, and looks. You don't have to brag about them. Just say thank you, and make the most of your talents, for others and for yourself
2006-08-21 20:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by Shiry Madison 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do whatever makes you happy as someone will always find fault in anything!!!
2006-08-21 20:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt put yourself down ,just say thank you for the coment then ur being suttle an consiterit
2006-08-21 20:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by ayres81781 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋