why do people get labled-once a cheat, always a cheat?

Question

ive heard that saying alot on here and that may be true for some people, but is that fair to say about everyone that may have cheated at one point on a partner-it happens alot-does it not just mean your not with the person your meant to be with in the first place-or am i just naive

Answer 1

An alcoholic is always an alcoholic ... doesn't mean he's going to drink again but he has to know he has a problem. You have to know you have a problem. It's not someone elses problem ... because they weren't right for you ... the responsibility belongs to the person doing the cheating.

Answer 2

Well,considering that I am not a cheater...nor have I ever cheated I'll attempt to answer this. I have been cheated on before, many times. You see in a relationship there is an unspoken bond of trust and respect between the two persons involved. Unless otherwise stated in the conception of the relationship it is understood that the two are ONLY intimate with the one they are with. When a member of the relationship cheats with someone else, that trust bond that was built is broken. When that happens it becomes really hard to be intimate with the person who has cheated. The trust is gone and the possibility of it happening again is there. Even though in the cheater's mind it was a one time thing and will never happen again. I think that you may be on the right track about people possibly being with someone they weren't meant to be with. However, for some people temptations can be too great. In this day and age we live in sex is everywhere. Physical attraction is more the norm now than ever before. Clothing has become much more revealing. The morals and standards of our elders are disappearing slowly. Then there are some people who are only after one thing. They thirst for nothing more that pure unadulterated sex from any and every one they deem attractive. But, once that trust is violated the possibility of it happening again is always there. If you are in a relationship and you feel that you are more attracted to someone else, tell the person you are with before you decide to engage in an act of intimacy with the new person. I hope this made sense for you.

Answer 3

Usually cheaters are repeat offenders. That is why cheaters generally get labeled. I however have known persons that have cheated once in a relationship and have spent a good 20 years after not cheating. It does depend on who you are with. If you were with the person you were intended to be with then you (rather, that person) wouldn't feel the desire or need to cheat. I'd say 90% of the people who cheat are plain ol' cheaters that won't change. But, there are persons out there that realize the hurt and misery it can cause for themselves and the person they cheated on. And, they learn their lesson. I find it prejudice to assume someone will cheat again if they've cheated once in the past. Although the odds aren't really in their favor.

Answer 4

I do not believe that once a cheat always a cheat for one minute. People cheat for a wide variety of reasons, that does not mean that they will do it again, Some people are just very judgemental and can not open their minds to other things. I think a person can change their ways, it depends on why they cheated in the first place..

Answer 5

Well once you have cheated you are a cheat. You are not naive but, it's a tough world and some times you make mistakes in your life and never do them again. You are still a cheat though

Answer 6

In some cases it is true,once a cheat always a cheat,but sometimes a person will cheat and then never do it again,but i feel that if you are with someone and they cheat on you even once then apparently they dont love you like you think they do.I feel that if you are with someone they should only be with you and nobody else.Even one time of cheating and they can never be trusted again.

Answer 7

The saying is well known and years old it is also generally true. Most cheaters get such a thrill from cheating that it's like an addiction they love the thrill of doing something they shouldn't and it is more exciting because they know it is wrong.
It's a hard thing to stop and most people enjoy it too much to stop

Answer 8

Once a cheat aways a cheat speaks to a lack of values. It says ,that your personal values system allows betrayal of vows, of commitment and trust. If you were just not with the right person then end that relationship and move on to the next.

Answer 9

same reason why they say "once a junkie, always a junkie"
there's moral values one should have NOT to cheat
if they dont get 'em when they're young they MAY develop into a cheat
same as a junkie, who not venting his emotions in socially acceptable ways or not finding solace to his demons outside of drugs starts and, well...never ends

as narcotics, drinking, gambling etc... groups stress, there is no recovering - insert malady of choice

there is an abstinent-gambler, abstinent-narcotics user, abstinent- whatever...



it's the ultimate "once you pop...you can't stop"
and, in fact, they never do!

they can AVOID the situation, but it's always a very dangerous path........and, usually a doomed and losing one!
a joint to a common man is a-ok...a joint to an abstinent-crackhead (even 20 years down the line) is STILL playin with fire..
like a game of blackjack at the casino for a gambler, or a whiskey on the porch to a drunk...EVEN 20 or however many years on

Answer 10

Yes you are being naive; cheating is like chocolate--once they have had a taste, they keep going back for more. Even when you love them to bits, they still cheat on you, and lie about it too.