I have had my heart broken a few times, and 1 big time!!! now that causes trust issues with me and my soon to be husband i love him and know he loves me, I just have trust issues cuz of past relationships.. what should i do???
2006-08-21 13:14:37 · 21 answers · asked by starfish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Can you guys hold hands and pray together?
2006-08-21 13:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Two things you want to do. First off, anything that happened in the past? Learn from them. Don't forget them, but don't dwell on them either. Think about the kind of people these guys who broke your heart were. Be rational about these things. I know it's hard to be rational about matters of the heart, but trust me. Keeping a cool head about stuff like this will save you a buttload of stress.
Secondly, be honest with your future husband. Let him know (and assure him you aren't accusing him of anything) how you're feeling and what your concerns are. If you can't be honest with each other, than you shouldn't be together anyway. Trust in yourself, keep a cool head, and be honest and you'll get through this OK.
2006-08-21 20:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sullivan Smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should NOT get married until you can give your husband all your love, trust, and loyalty. He deserves better from you. Stop using the past as an excuse and find out why you are really having these concerns. Maybe speak to a professional marriage counselor...
2006-08-21 20:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't get married!!!! If you have trust issues it is only gonna make the marriage worse. Trust me I know. My husband and I are not together because of my anger towards men. Plus my trust issues. Until you can really trust don't marry your man.
2006-08-21 20:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by mslady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats a hard one and sry thats happend 2 u :(
Well u really need to figure out the trust issue thing becaus marrage takes allot of trust and its definately essential in having (and I know im gonna sound like dr. phil here... but...)the healthiest relationships and being the best wife you can be. You shouldnt be marrying anyone unless you can trust them- especially when they say I love you.
good luck!
2006-08-21 20:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by sweetie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ruin this because of the past! Try to forget what has happened and push it aside. If you are sure this man is in love with you, then don't let others ruin your chances of happiness. You've got to be strong and not sulky - forget the past and move on. It's for the best, and it'll make you happier!
2006-08-21 20:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know alot about of broken hearts due to mine stay broke i trust in everyone and everyone uses me so you heart will heel but in time and you just have to get involved in something to keep yourself busy for you will forget the pain
2006-08-21 20:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by saddolphin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to have a husband soon ....TRUST HIM ABSOLUTELY. Never have a suspicious mind. Always be happy. Forget the bad experience and look forward to a new life with him. HAPPY marriage!!!
2006-08-21 20:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i get you, but ask yourself if he is really the one you want to be with for the rest of your life. has he ever given you reason to doubt how trustworthy he is? also, remember he is not all those other guys. and if after much contimplation and you still dont know maybe you just have to wait a little while before getting married because maybe you are just not ready and if he loves you he will wait and he will understand.
2006-08-21 20:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Cadra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making others responsible for your current behavior. If I were you, I would NEVER get married if there is something of a trust issue going on. Beaware of all those Red Flags, sweetie.......when in doubt, DON'T!!!!
2006-08-21 20:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the past with the past and always plan for the future!
2006-08-21 20:21:47 · answer #11 · answered by Alucard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋