Im 26, my boyfriend is 29, we have been together for 6 months.
He hardly ever calls me, and tells me he doesnt want to speak to me everyday. We lived 2hrs away from each other,
We do see each other every weekend, and sometimes once during the week. But he wants more time with his mates on weekends (even though he sees them every thursday night) and he never calls me, and said he would be annoyed if he had to speak to me everyday, even for just 5 minutes.
He doesnt answer my calls at all when hes with his mates.
He tells me he loves me deeply, but Im starting to doubt him, If he loved me, wouldnt he want to see me all the time, or at least speak more often?
He doesnt even txt me back half the time, and sometimes I send him sweet loving txts saying i miss him.
He tells me not to doubt that he loves me, Ive met his parents (he still living with them, about to move out) and said I wouldnt of met them if he didnt love me. and tells me he wouldnt come down to see me most weekends.
2006-08-21 13:14:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He might be telling the truth, that he loves you and all. But if I were you, I wouldn't want to be with someone who defines love the way he does... by depriving you from attention & affection that you deserve! He seems like the type who won't work too hard in a relship. I'm sorry but love is like respect: you can't just love a guy- he has to earn it & it doesn't seem like does.
2006-08-21 13:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you joking? Dump him and do it now.
I am 40, married for 13 years and i can tell you that when you love someone, both of you would want to spend every minute together, and if he wants to spend more time with his mates during the week and not hear your voice even for one minute on the phone, then girl, you've got an opportunist, a It-is-so-convenient-to have-you-where-you-are relationship. Where has your self esteem gone? Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, "he is not worth it!", "I deserve the best!", "I deserve being wooed like a lady!"
Do it yesterday!!!
2006-08-21 20:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by sigush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plzzz girl dont waste ur time on such a guy!! he says he doesnt want to speak to u everyday?? he get annoyed if u speak with him for 5 minutes? well i dont think this would go anywhere if he isnt willing to give up his precious time to be with u!! its fine if a guy wants to spend some time with his mates but then he should be willing to give u the same courtesy. I'll tell u a quote i heard once...
if a man loves u nothing can keep him away and if he doesnt nothing can make him stay"
dont waste ur time with him....find someone who will appreciate being with u ! good luck
2006-08-21 20:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by nice_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to let him go. I know it is hard but when you love someone you want to be with them every waking min. You cannot get enough of them. It almost sounds like he wants a girl in his life just so he can say yeah I got a girl and brag about it. Let him go and if he comes back maybe he will see what he was missing.
2006-08-21 20:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by jojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run for the hills from this one my friend. he is using you until something better comes alon. i have never met a man yet who I feel is in love with me and doesn't want to be with me most every day . My hubby and I talk on the phone several times throughout the day and we only woirk 30 miles apart.
2006-08-21 20:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by AuntieKJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not being available. If he calls and says he wants to see you say Im busy ill call you tomorrow and wait a few days. If that doesnt bother him and get him to come around. You need to move on. If you love someone let them go if they come back to you it was meant to be.
2006-08-21 20:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try pulling back a bit and not always being available at the drop of a hat. Make him miss you and see if he ups the anti.
If he doesn't time maybe to move on.
If he does then good.
Add a little air of mystery, don't always respond to texts by return........hope you catch my drift...
2006-08-21 20:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree w/ moggie. back off some, women really do need to talk way to much. texting and talking every day? i agree with him it would drive me up the wall if i had to speak to my boyfriend every day or end every phone call with I LOVE YOU. totally a great way to chase a guy off.
2006-08-21 20:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by The Key Master 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋