why i feel lonely inspite of giving everything i have?

Question

i love my family.im doing everything for them.but i think they dont know.im tired.sometimes i want to give up

Answer 1

Your family is taking you for granted. Do they even know you exist? Do you know when they are tired? Hungry? Bored? Do they know this about you?

Make sure they do. Tell them they are expected to reciprocate in the "caring about each other".

Answer 2

Don't Give Up!!!!
Remember that people can only take advantage of you if you let them.
In my opinion, the reason that you feel lonely is because after running yourself ragged looking after your family all day every day, you have nothing left to give yourself.
As a wife and a mother, you are always left to take care of the endless jobs that come up with regards to the running of the household. These are jobs that some women find fullfilling, but to be honest, doing endless loads of washing, registering cars, paying bills, scrubbing bathrooms, grocery shopping, taxi- driving everyone around, helping with homework and refereeing endless fights is not a life that many people strive for. It's just the part of life that comes through building a family.
All of these jobs have to be done, and wether or not they're done by you, or the chores are shared between you is up to you to decide.
What you definately have the right to do, is look to find an interest for yourself. Something that you love doing, that you can do on your own, in your own time. This is both your right as a human being, and your entitlement as a wife and a mother with very little left to give.
Finding a hobby or an interest for yourself, even if it's only a walk in the park, will give you time to clear your thoughts, and even make you more available to your family.
I make time for myself every morning, regardless of what else has to happen through the day. I don't make any appointments before 11am, and everything still gets done, it just gets done with a spring in my step. (We even have a 1 hour quiet time on the weekends in the afternoon, where everyone has time to themselves to do something that they love)...This may sound selfish, and I don't care. I have just as much right to an enjoyable life as everyone else in my family, and so do you.
Please live and enjoy the life you've been lucky enough to be given...
Good luck...

Answer 3

Sometimes the more you give, the ones you care about unknowingly take more and more. Because they feel safe and know they can. I can't believe they do this intentionally.
I had been in the same situation for most of my life. It was sucking the life force out of me. I had to start setting limits. Which was hard. There were some that would try to make me feel guilty. For making time for myself, saying I couldn't help them at the time they needed, etc.
If you don't protect your own mind and space you'll be so flooded with everyone issues. You'll get pulled under. Don't you feel as though your drowning now. I know I have been there, sort of still am with a few.
There were times I wanted to give up. I didn't. Because I realized I could give up any old time. That takes no energy. Staying in the game of life is the fight.

Answer 4

If you are doing a lot for your family for recognition (and you have to really ask yourself if this is the reason) than know that it will not make you happy in the long run. Obviously you are not genuinely giving of your self if you are feeling un appreciated. That's not a bad thing, the key is to stop trying so hard. Dig deep and figure out why it is you are doing so much. Are you trying to gain love or acceptance? Your family will love you no matter what, so just be yourself for awhile. And don't forget to take some precious time out for yourself a few times a week! You deserve it!!!

Answer 5

Stop trying to be everyone's hero and savior. It will not make you happy and it's also not healthy for them.... TRUST!

Spend sometime each week finding and exploring different interests, hobbies, skills that bring you some pleasure and excitement... or just satisfy you in some way. If your lonely... you need to reach out to other people, organizations, groups, or entities that share your common goals and interests and hobbies.

Take time out each and every day for yourself even if it's an hour or two. Make sure this time is "UNINTERRUPTED" time. Doesn't matter what you do... it could be polishing your nails... Consistently go on vacations and learn how to relax. Your family CAN NOT place on you any more stress or responsibility than you allow them to. Set boundaries and guidlines that are pratical for YOU and follow them and stick to them come heck or high water. Make sure you don't allow your family to bypass those guidelines you've set. Remember they can only do so if you allow it. Learn how to say "NO"... because it's ok to say that word and mean it.

It's not that deep so...Work it out and stop stressing out.

Answer 6

We often find momentary fulfillment in the daily things we do or the things we dream about, once we achieve or have what we want, we fil drain and thats because we satisfy more our soul desires rather than our spiritual needs. Seeking God and having his direction can put us in the right path for an eternal joy and complete satisfaction. Every man should have something to live for and willing to die for, but it should be something real and what a great honor to serve God for the rest of our short lives.
~~~ Brave Heart

Answer 7

Children and even wives who have been protected rarely see the others needs. I dont know what your personal situation is, but maybe you have given so much of yourself to your family that you have forgotten about your own needs and feelings. Its not too late, but you have to be prepared to communicate openly and honestly with your family....tell them how you are feeling, tell them its now time for you to be considered. Tell them you are a person first, a father/husband second. You have to live with yourself, you cant survive keeping everyone else happy. You have to have your needs met too. You have to understand, this is a situation you have created, so you are the only one who can change it. You have given so much of yourself that you are totally drained. Talking to your family is the best option....they need to know how you feel. You dont have to be a martyre.

Answer 8

there are times when some of us women are really stupid. because we keep going on & on. instead of asking for help we soldier on. BUT we are not thought better of. they only say why didnt you tell us or ask for help. BUT we seem to think that they will just offer to help BUT they dont. i had this a few times till i really blew my top. then everything came out. but now its different because they have realized i am a family member NOT a unpaid skivvy. now i have all the help i need & get taken over & made to sit down why they do it. SO speak out for yourself & let them know how you feel before it goes to far. your not the only one in the house so why should be the only one to do everything. good luck.

Answer 9

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-Doctor! I have a serious problem, I can never remember what i just said.
-When did you first notice this problem?
-What problem?

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Just be yourself and care for the people around you. When you love and care for the others, others will also show you the same love. Just don't give up!!

Answer 10

Honey you really need to take some time for yourself and explain to them that you are giving all you have and that it is affecting you this badly. When you give everything to loved one's and give nothing to yourself it will eventually make you feel the way you do.. Go do something that makes you happy, don't worry they will understand and you will feel much better.. I wish you the best of luck and god bless you..