a girl my age was sitting with me and my friend at today, and my friend was saying how skinny her sister was. The girl turned to my friend and wispered to her, my friend later told me she said everyone thought I was annerexic! I hate the girl because she's always is rude to me, but she used to be my friend and she sits with me and my other friends. I am sick of not being able to stand up for myself, and being treated this way, how do I tell her stop spreading rumors about me and being a bully.
2006-08-21 13:07:23 · 22 answers · asked by sparkly543 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
People say things like that because of their own insecurities. Maybe this girl feels insecure about her own weight and so she tries to put you down to make herself feel better. It's stupid I know, and probably the best approach is to just eliminate her from you life (don't be nice to her at all anymore, don't let her near you anymore, tell in that she's really just not welcome in your life anymore). You give people like this an inch and they continually take a mile. You have to stand firm on this. She may say more crap at the start, but just ignore it (or hell, say something back if it makes you feel better....it's mean, but it's an effective way of getting someone to stop saying crap about you). Eventually she'll see her comments aren't really getting to you, and she'll stop.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this. People can be morons when they're growing up, and they have no idea the damage their comments can make.
2006-08-21 13:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by wlfgngpck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell your real friends how you feel about her, just to let them know. Then you tell the girl how you feel too. Now you can tell her this with or without your real friends by your side. If you can try to say it nice and calm. If any of that doest work then just tell a counsiler and maybe they can give you even more better advice. All I'm saying is to try to not say it in a way that she will take wrong and will lead it into a conflict. Good luck! Tell me how it all went @ free4jordanis@yahoo.com.
2006-08-21 13:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jordanis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore her and be your nice self and she'll baq off, don't backstab her or you might lose loyalty of your own friends and dont get involved
You cant stop bullies, Just have your friends by your side!I have the name Lesbo in my school but I cared and now even my friends are calling me that name, so if anyone calls you it just says my names (Your name) not annorexic!
2006-08-21 13:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by Leslie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me once before people were spreading rumors that I'm anorexic but I just ignored those lies cause I know I eat.
2006-08-21 19:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell yourself
shes a mean person
she knows she is mean so she finds people to make fun of
shes scared of people commenting on her, so she changes the attention to someone else
shes pathetic.ur not. u have a life other then tyring to bully ppl
2006-08-21 13:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her i had almost the same problem. many gurls said I was fat. I am not though but I ignored them and they stop because it was getting old. Don't show emotion around cuz then she'll find it easy to tease you.
If not working talk to a school counselor
2006-08-21 13:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by pinkqueen34456 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People only talk about other people because they are uncomfortable with themselves!!!
Don't let other people bother you
but the best way to stop them is to ask her to stop
in person
and be confident!
don't let people make you unsure about yourself because they are spreading rumors -- they spread rumors because they want your confidence to go down so dont let her win -
BE STRONG AND BE CONFIDENT
2006-08-21 13:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by Leasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that it is not very friendly to act like your friend to your face and spread rumors when you are not around. or just tell her to stay away from you and act like it dont bother you, because she is doing it to bother you and if she can see that it dont most likely she will stop.
2006-08-21 13:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
confronting her will most likely give her something else to gossip about show her you dont care what she has to say and she will find someone else to pick on most people who are makeing fun of other's are doing it so know one will notice there flaws. i know you want to rip her hair out but kill her with kindness people like that are often more troubled then they let on.
2006-08-21 13:18:57 · answer #9 · answered by heather d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go up to her and be like "Look, why do yu treat me so badly? I've been nothing more or less than nice to yu . Do yu get a kick out of watching me hurt? Well, i dont so please just stop it ." and if she bags on yu . just ignore her or call her mom (:
2006-08-21 13:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by yeahitstaylor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋