I am really depperesed and sad,, i am going trought a very hard time i know i am young only 16 years old but before 1 year one boy entered in my life, and he loved me alot , i also loved him alot now he left me,, by saying i am not the right girl for him and making things up ,,now today we both said bye to eachother ,, i am really depperesed always crying, please tell me anyone what can i do??? how can i forget him??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
2006-08-21 12:37:11 · 24 answers · asked by sherry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks alot everyone,,,for ur helps,,, i will try to make myself busy with other things,, but i have his pics,,and emails,, which i just dont know why i cant remove them,, i cant delet them, something stops me from it,,,and i know as far as i have them they will still hurt me, but i am thinking that he might return back to me :( ................anywys,,thanks alot everyone i am feeling a bit better but still when ever i try to make my self busy with something else his face comes in front of my eyes and it hurts me alottttttttttt,,,,,God help me through this worst time............
2006-08-22 00:41:29 · update #1
Thanks alot everyone,,,for ur helps,,, i will try to make myself busy with other things,, but i have his pics,,and emails,, which i just dont know why i cant remove them,, i cant delet them, something stops me from it,,,and i know as far as i have them they will still hurt me, but i am thinking that he might return back to me :( ................anywys,,thanks alot everyone i am feeling a bit better but still when ever i try to make my self busy with something else his face comes in front of my eyes and it hurts me alottttttttttt,,,,,God help me through this worst time............
2006-08-22 00:41:35 · update #2
You are so young!!!! You have your whole life ahead of you.If he truly loved you he wouldn't have left you.First love always hurts,you have to move on with your life.You will meet someone else who will make you even happier.
2006-08-21 12:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel overwhelming sadness and loss after a "breakup". If you break down the feelings though you will probably discover that the real emotion that is hiding under all of that is fear. You are afriad of the consequences of not having this guy, the consequences to your social life, the consequences to your habits and the things you like to do, having to find another boyfriend, etc....
The best cure is to find another guy to fixate on! You may not be having sex (because you should wait until you are older and have your own place and all) but your sex drive is still strong. That is the thing that makes you attracted to new people and want new boyfriends and obsess on them. It's also what attracted you to the previous guy and made you feel so desparate like you're gonna die when you broke up. It's also the thing that will help you get over him fast.
Soon another guy will make you feel totally consumed with attraction or love or whatever, exactly the same way the first guy did (maybe a little less) and you will realize that those feelings are just part of being an adult and happen all the time and come in waves and are nothing particularly special, and they will be easier to cope with as you go through the long dating process you have ahead of you before you settle down, which hopefully will be well after you have met all your educational and career goals.
God I sound old, I hope that makes sense.
Good luck and be safe.
2006-08-21 19:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so very hard to get past grief and pain when it is so fresh. The wounds you feel in your heart, right now, feel as if you believe you might never stop feeling the pain.
The good news is, love - you do eventually stop feeling that pain. It does get better for you, and in time, you will learn how to love again.
It won't be the same, the second time around. No love ever is the same, and no love will ever feel the same as your first love.
But that's the whole point.
If there is any thought that can help you through how you feel right now, the knowledge that you will know love again is probably the best one you can have. It will sustain you through the worst times.
2006-08-21 20:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by fiat_knox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life goes on, never right in the way we want,
We stopped, we cry, but we always go on,
Even though we're chained in depression of broken love.
Should you end your life, to be crush like an ant,
Or move forward, till the chain rusted and gone,
Or to curse or pray from the help above?
My poem doen't make sense... :P Please ignore that.
Reading this question make me think of my past when I was young... Really breaks my heart and nearly broke into tears...
When there's an operation on my heart... you'll see some pieces missing...
What you should do is continue your life and your heart will gradually healed a year or two or more....
Forgetting a loved one is not really easy to forget, unless you catch amnesia, all you can do is to get him off your life, change it into memory and stored it at furthest part of your brain... and continue on with your other objectives in your life...
2006-08-21 21:06:09 · answer #4 · answered by Ace Striker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rent some movies, order a pizza and invite your best friend over to cry on her shoulder. Get it all out. Then the two of you can talk trash about him. Maybe, Tee-Pee his house later. That always made me feel better. Have your friends put the word out that your now available and I'm sure in no time your phone will be ringing off the hook. Once he sees your moving on he'll probably want you back anyway!
2006-08-21 19:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by angel 22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me hun there will be a lot of people come and go in your life but because ur so young it seems so intense right now but please beleive me time will heal u and u will get over this sad time u really need 2 keep busy talk 2 family friends anyone who will listen because u need 2 get everthing off ur chest, it feels like the end of the world right now but ive been through it more than once and i promise u its not, its the beginning of a whole new chapter u have time on ur side.
2006-08-21 20:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by karen333342 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, I know its hard, but this happens to everyone at some time in their life, and you need to look forward, not back. Start going out with your friends again, and have fun. You have all your life ahead of you- dont be in such a rush to commit to one man; before you meet Prince Charming, you have to kiss a few toads!!! Dont make your pretty eyes all red by crying over him- he obviously wasnt good enough for you anyway. Put some lippy on and a pretty dress, and go have fun!!!
2006-08-21 19:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by k0005kat@btinternet.com 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is rejection.
Be aware that boys/men are not like girls/women, it is men who are volatile and changeable; they are interested in sex rather than love and have a biological imperative to spread their seed as far and wide as possible.
It is not that he is rejecting you but that he is seeking pastures new.
You have the advantage of physiological strength, that's why women live ten years longer than men. Use that strength to go out and do something physical. Physical action helps to disperse the chemicals that are making you feel miserable by neutralising them with adrenaline.
Depression whether emotional or medical (it's fairly certain it's not medical in your case) relies on chemicals that accumulate in the brain during physical inactivity that usually accompanies depression.
Do something new and/or challenging but with a high chance of success, in private if you prefer, but do it.
2006-08-21 20:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by narkypoon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember that the world can seem overwhelming at times at the tender age of 16. Please know that when you are 16 emotions and relationships are EXTREMELY intense. AS you find your way, you will realize that it is more reciprocal--you will rely on others to support you and not always feel as if you must support them and are dependent on what they feel about you.
As a 16-year old I remember harboring intense feelings that bordered on the suicidal. As a 30-somethinger I'm telling you it gets better and you realize that you should support others but that others should support you too.
Please keep me informed.
2006-08-21 19:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by Karl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all go through this sometime in our life,youre only 16 so you have all your life ahead of you,just try and look forward to what you love doing in your spare time,a hobby or something.When i was your age and this happened to me i used to sit on my front wall and look up the street at my favourite football teams ground and think at least ive still got that to look forward to,going watch them play.im now happilly married for 10 years with 2 addorable boys.You will get over it,i promise you.
2006-08-21 19:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋