Ok so I have been married for about 5 yrs I have 2 little ones I love my husband dearly but I started seeing my ex, he is a total looser, doesen't work, lives at home and is mentally abusive. I made up this big lie that iam going to leave my hubby but some to find out I don't want to be with this creep, but how do I get outta it now? I mean I do love the ex we have fun when we are together (sexually) but thats all. Iam so confused. What would you all do? I just keep saying to my self, is this guy worth loosing my kids over and a nice house?
2006-08-21 12:33:02 · 8 answers · asked by mrndtn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stay away far away from him before you lose everything.You have already cheated with a loser.
2006-08-21 12:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow, have you ever got yourself into a situation. What if you break it off with your ex and he tells your husband? You are really going to be SOL. If worse came to worse you could say your ex is lying and never ever tell. I would do that if I stayed with him. If you tell him, he will never love you or trust you the same again!
Maybe you are looking for what your marriage is lacking. That is fun! You are attracted to one for fun, but you don't go with him because of what everyone thinks. Sometimes you gotta do what you feel in your heart. You call him a piece of **** because that is how people feel about him. But if you really felt he was such a piece of **** you wouldn't be with him, at least I don't think so.
You have a nice house and kids you don't want to lose, but let me tell you, and all men can agree, this is a womans world in the law of court with kids and divorce, and you would have to be a real, real, real bad mom for any judge to take your kids away or you not to get the nice house and him still have to pay for it. Its a womans world hunny!
But if you want your marriage to work, you need to end this now. You need to decide what you want and who you want and do it. Life's too short to live it full of regrets. Follow your heart!
2006-08-21 12:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tljabgdvhj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No the kids must come first. I know the ex will f uck the life out of you. And you cant live without being on the edge with a "looser". Those are all exciting things, i know. But you have to try as best as you can to ensure that you save your kids from this viscious circle that you seem to endure.
2006-08-21 12:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by M2J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate! Don't loose your kids and husband for a quick thrill. Trust me it's not worth it. Stop while your ahead and tell your ex things are just not how you want them to be and that your kids come first even before yourself and I'm sure he'll back off for the sake of your kids!Right?
2006-08-21 13:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave your husband. Leave that loser of an ex behind. It's not worth it to lose your children and husband. If you do continue to cheat, however, tell your husband. He deserves to be with someone that loves him.
2006-08-21 12:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by REDHED4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay put. You are risking your family for a loser and your own personal sexual
gratification. You don't deserve what you've got . You are a cheat, on your husband and your children. They deserve better than you. How can you say you love your husband dearly. You're also a liar. Even this loser deserves better than you.
2006-08-21 12:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by MoonDoggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from this douche bag, you have to much to risk now, especially with kids present in ur life now. i know people like ur ex they were my drinking buddies in college and they really amounted to a lot YEAH RIGHT stick to what u have the saying not to want what u do not have it is appreaciating what u got
2006-08-21 12:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by rhine_15065 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not judging by no means. You need to let the ex go. Your kids are worth more than great sex any day. Ask your husband for some christian counseling. I hope that you will really consider this. God forgives you, forgive yourself and get on with your life.
2006-08-21 12:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by hotmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋