We had our share of problems in the beginning of the relationship. He made me believe he was ready to be "committed" to me in a long distance relationship, but for the first 2 or 3 months, still did everything a single man does. I don't think he would have ever stopped if I didn't catch him. Like a fool, I married him and now I realize there is a possibility that I have not and will never forgive him for all he's done. Just when I think I have, he does some more disrespectful a** shi* and gets mad at me for getting mad about it. Is it worth trying to work on it? We both claim to love eachother, but it doesn't feel like it anymore. We've both said cruel things to eachother and I don't understand how he could marry someone so terrible as me makes me out to be. Funny thing is he never brings any of it up til I start in on him about something he has gotten caught doing.
2006-08-21 12:32:25 · 12 answers · asked by ushouldnoidontplay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds like a spoiled brat. Dump him before you get pregnant because then you would have to see him for years because of the child.
2006-08-21 12:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're "catching" him that means he's violating whatever boundaries you've set. I'm not sure what you've caught him doing, but if your boundaries are reasonable (ie no lying, cheating, stealing), his violation of them is disrespectful to you. How you handle the problem can make them worse or make them better. If he's a jerk, it won't matter. If you attack him when he feels he's done nothing wrong, it creates more problems in the relationship. He will hide more so. Marriage is based on love, trust and respect. If you don't have those, you can't have open communication which leads you to being more parnoid about things he may not even be doing. If he has cheated on you repeatedly, he doesn't respect you. Unless you want to be with a man who doesn't respect you, I would leave.
2006-08-21 19:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got married too soon. Go talk with a marriage counselor and if that does not work. End it soon! Good luck to both of you.
2006-08-21 19:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only going to get worse. Not better.
If you can't even get along when you're newlyweds, how is it going to be in 5 years?
Right now you can probably get an annulment. Do it. Don't waste your life in a crappy marriage
2006-08-21 19:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by loves2fly84095 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Its wierd but give it a shot and give it a timeline. Set down rules, speak to him. If things dont get better by that date u set initially walk away. Nothign wrong with walking away
2006-08-24 09:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of waiting longer. It doesn't seem healhy and happy for either of you.
Thanks for sharing btw. This is a pretty personal one!
Fights are fights some can be healthy but if you don't feel the love is there them why the haste in marriage.
2006-08-21 19:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by shadowspothost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him now and find someone who really cares about you and give no more thoughts about him.He will never change and you can not really forgive him or for get it,move on and be happy.
2006-08-21 19:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnt have gotten married in the first place! either u stay or go its up to you :) u should still be in your honeymoon stage and look what you're doing...u might be in your adjustment period already...it should be the other way around though...lol
2006-08-21 19:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Lord,
Please help this woman to leave this man before it goes on any longer and she wastes even more of her precious days!!!!!!
Once you start being cruel to each other.....it never stops.
LEAVE and stay gone! Life is too short to be so miserable.
2006-08-21 19:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by Melm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Ur the 1 n luv? U sound crazy great!!
Du ur self a big favor, MOVE ON !!
2006-08-21 20:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by J.M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋