What is the secret to a happy marriage? Don't answer if you aren't married.?

Answer 1

Date night once a month, kissing passionately at least once every day, and NEVER going to bed mad at each other!!!

Answer 2

I've been married over 17 yrs now and the few things that have kept it happy have been:

1. Humor...even if it's not funny now, remember that some day you are going to look back and laugh.

2. Positive thinking....yes, it could always be worse.

3. Patience...not everyone catches on as quickly as you do...and they'll eventually come around to your way of thinking

4. Compromise....it has to be a 50/50 thing or someone is going to end up resenting the other one.

5. Respect....you don't have to agree, but you must respect their thoughts and ideas

6. Appreciation....no matter how big or how small, appreciate all that you have and all this person gives you and let them know you appreciate them.

7. Listening...you can't be the one doing all the talking if you expect to reach compromise.

8. Never stop living....don't let things get boring or dull. Everyday is a new start and could lead to a new adventure to share.

And last but not least, don't ever let it slip your mind why you fell in love to begin with. It's those little things you remember that make you want to stick it out.

Being happy isn't something I could admit to being 24/7, but it's something we strive for. We all have our ups and our downs...that's just life....it's also how we get through them with our spouse that makes the difference.

I wish you well.

Answer 3

A happy marriage is one that has open, clear communication. One where two people grow toward each other and yet can still go do things independently. All marriages have ups and downs. A good marriage knows when to pick a fight worth picking and when not to make a mountain out of a mole hill.
But, I said communication first because without being open, honest and loving, without sharing each others successes and failures together in a healthy way, the marriage will be rocky, and I'll be the first to admit, I don't like to rock the boat. Unless, it's a yacht and we're a lone on it, happily.

Answer 4

The marriage is a 50/50 relationship. You both came into it together. You share the responsibilities, and the heart aches.
Never call one another a name, never go to bed angry. Never go to bed without saying I love you. If an argument does happen which it will, one of you leave for a while so things can cool down, and you both have time to think of an answer to what just happened and what caused it. Then sit down, and calmly discuss it.
Don't listen to rumors, and stories from others. People hate to see someone happy than their selves.
Don't let MONEY be a big issue, everything will work it's way through.
Have practiced this for 32 years and still going strong.

Answer 5

I am not married, and I know you said not to answer, but I think I have some things to offer. My parents have been happily married for almost thirty years, and they say the secret is communication. They talk all the time. They even call each other during the day. They have very few secrets, and they know each other like the back of their hand. Also, compromise is key, too. If they can't agree, they compromise. They never really argue. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Well never forget why you fell in love or how you fell in love.Respect your spouse, share everything good bad or otherwise keep No secrets. Secrets lead to problems and problems either get solved or removed. Clear open communication is a must on every aspect leave no room for second guessing and always talk the troubles through if there are any. Paying the bills must happen to don't let money issues get in the way. Come home on time and let the other know when you will be late.You can always have your time with friends a night out with out your spouse but don't forget to spend quality time with your spouse take them to dinner on a date etc. remember how yo u fell in love and always keep it alive.
I was married for 15 yrs I don't believe in divorce but gave in and have been divorced for 6 yrs.I had a very dis functional marriage he drank and didn't come home we have 3 very wonderful children 20, 18 and soon to be 17. I figured I was better off doing it alone because we were alone. I have a wonderful relationship now and have let him move in ...first real relationship in 6 years for me. I am taking my own advice because if my ex had listened to me and not his family (They never met me because of Their religion) we would be together now September 17th 2006 would be our 20 th anniversary....so good luck to you and yours and me and mine!! :)

Answer 7

We've only been married three months now but lived together almost a year before getting married. It seems the longer you are with/live with someone the more it seems to end in divorce I think the secret is to always be spontantous, dont ever think you will stop learning about your partner, and never ever keep him away from friends or family just try to fit yourself in there. And dont stop doing the little sweet thigns you did when you first started dating, little love notes, cards flowers meeting for lunch sorta stuff that keeps it strong.

Answer 8

There is no secret it is really very simple. Treat each other how you want to be treated. Let each other know how you feel about the other. Don't rely on the fact that the other already know, it still needs to be said. Show each other the love you feel. Always keep the lines of communication open. Remember there must always be a receiver and a sender, otherwise there is no communication.

Answer 9

The truth is the secret to a happy marriage is mutual respect and admiration. Sharing in the workload helps too. For instance my hubby and I trade "coffee days". I have even days on even years and odd days on odd years. I get up first and make him coffee and do the dishes from the evening before. It takes 10 to 20 minutes each time and makes you feel totally spoiled every other day.

Answer 10

Do things together; if you're already married and seem not to have anything in common, MAKE something to have in common. Start a new hobby or something. Doing things together often and not keeping secrets from each other I imagine are the two most important things. It still won't be perfect (what is?), but if you do those things it will be a lot easier in my opinion. Married 13 years

Answer 11

There is no secret. I saw a couple in their 70"s and 80's making out on TV one valentines day. (Gross, but true) What got me is how much in love they were after 50+ years.
He said nothing in this world last forever. Yet people believe the first time they fall in love it will carry them through the rest of their lives. He said ever day you need to see something in that person you love. Show love every day.
I ask couples that have been happily married for years the same question. Every couple answers differently. Some spend all their time together. Others spend a lot of time away. Which wasn't much help to me. That's why that older man defined it for me.