I am a lesbian and when i talk about gays with my mom she cringes to the sound. She claims that she has nothing against gays but if shes so comfortable with it...why does she always assume that the only reason why gays exist is because they had a horrible childhood. They either were molested or raped or abuse when that is clearly not true. I am a lesbian and i am just fine so i think that there is absolutly NO truth in that and im pretty sure im not the only one who hasnt go through a tramatic experience. Yes i was close to being raped a year and a half ago but that was way after i knew i was a lesbian so that had nothing to do with it. I just want my mom and other people who know NOTHING about the gay community to stop judging us...we are human just like you. Jus because we love differently does not mean we are problem children or mental abused in the past. We are normal and we always will be. What do you think?
2006-08-21 11:51:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think you should tell this to your mom. But I agree with you and I think people are homophobic because it's different.
2006-08-21 11:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by maxie 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
For a lot of people, there's all these things that they think they're progressive and cool with ...in theory. Then, when it's their own kid, they've got all these hidden prejudices that surface. The good news is, from the sound of it you still have SOME relationship with her, and a relatively decent one. Educate her; it sounds like she's trying and may very well be open to it. Ask her why she thinks the things she thinks; where that came from. Look up the research that says she's wrong. Try to show her a different perspective on some of the issues. And try to be patient. Best of luck!
2006-08-21 15:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one are born with any specific nature and you do become who you are today based on your own experience.Your mom have thoughts like that because yes,she is comfortable with homsexual but not you being one.She felt that she raise you up with love and care,but you are a lesbian,she felt that by telling those horrid experience that one must go through to become a homsexual will change you to become straight because you never been through it.Its true that become a homosexual doesn't require any of those horrible stuff,its just that not all people could accept that homosexual is something that could be find within.If they accept that fact,it will sound like they will eventually turn into one but that not true because you are just being who you are.
2006-08-21 12:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Maxie did well. As for your mother, actions speak louder than words. I have two lesbian friends, very close, in fact one of them for 22 years. Her mother and father and step father don't relate to her at all. Her brother treats her like a sister so who knows? Your mother is too old the change now so as the kids say, "Go with the flow".
Vaya con DIOS
2006-08-21 12:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by chrisbrown_222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like a freind of mine, your Mom doesn't understand homosexuality. Yes, some gays are made through abusive relationships. They may not live happily, then they might, each one is different. Yes, most gays are genetically predisposed. Many accept themselves, find support, and Love happily ever after. Some do not. My freind, Bob, for instance, is still struggling with self-acceptance. He hates gays and himself. I am confused, even by his behavior.
2006-08-21 12:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's alot for her to handle and she will probably get more comfortable with it as time goes on. Don't rub it in her face. I'm sure that you don't think you're being too open with your mom, but there are some things that need to approached cautiously. My girlfriend's sister told me that she's a lesbian, but she hasn't told my girlfriend or her mother yet. My girlfriend has an idea that she is, but she swears her sister is going through a phase. I know that she is just in denial. As with your mom, my girlfriend will have to get used to it to. Just give your mom time.
2006-08-21 12:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by hel_lno 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its and old cliche that when you heard one of your friends or family members were gay... It was because they were raised incorrectly.... What ever, When I told my mom 20 years ago she said " What did I do Wrong"? It had nothing to do with her... But in the olden days It was the Parents fault.... Or it had to be a tragedy... It's more common now because more and more kids are coming out sooner.. Back then you were kind of on your own....
2006-08-21 12:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by mylife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U dont sound like U are seeking opinions but I think U made ur point.
2006-08-21 12:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by beezebee25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change your mom. The more you try to, the more your relationship will suffer. I would advise you not to worry about it. Just live and let live.
Love, Jack.
2006-08-21 15:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you to tell other people what they should think. If gays are the greatest people on the earth , then why doesn't every body worship them. You should be happy that your mom is talking to you , but you want to make a big deal that she doesn't love your lifestyle just because you like it.
2006-08-21 12:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋