My frined is 13, and is into drinking and stuff like that, i need help i really care about him and i want him to STOP. What should I do, i don't want to tell my mom or she would tell me not to hang out with him anymore.
2006-08-21 11:50:55 · 31 answers · asked by Sarah W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Maybe if you feel comfortable enough discuss this with your guidance counselor.
2006-08-21 11:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand where you are coming from, you don't want to loose your friend or be "forbidden" from seeing him again, but u do need to help him. If he is only 13 and he's drinking now ... it's only going to get worse. this is a sensitive subject that should be handled with the utmost care. i can tell that you really care about him ... this is exactly what you need to tell him. some others posted that he might have issues that he is fighting through and that that is the reason he drinks. that may be, but it could also be peer pressure, not from you of course, but from others, not neccessarily directly, but many things influence a person; such as tv, movies, people he sees drinking. yes drinking can be fun ... at the appropriate times, AND at the appropriate AGE!!! 13 is an important time in someone's life, when they start to take shape to the person they are going to become. letting his mom know is not neccessarily the right solution, because this might not be a case where he needs to "seek professional help", this might just be a circumstance where he wants to have fun and this is the way he thinks he can do it ... here's where you come in: let him know you are his friend, and that you care about him a lot ..(obviously you do, beacuse you posted your concern on this website in hopes of finding out how you could help him) second try to find out when he drinks(is it when he is sad, mad, etc.) and get him involved in other things. if he is upset about something then let him know if he wants to talk about it with you or someone else he can, instead of drinking his problems away (which DOES NOT WORK ... i've tried ...) i myself used to drink, for many reasons, with my friends for fun, or when i just felt like being out of it, and also when i was upset about something (my dad died of cancer a couple months ago and he had been really sick for quite sometime, and that was really hard to handle; so i DRank .) anyway if all else fails tell him hes being and idiot! slap him around, trust me this works lol, let him know that you care about him, and you don;t want to see him make an *** out of himself, and that he needs to grow up and confront whatever it is that is making him drink. 3rdly this might just be a phase ... if any other ?'s u can let me know.
2006-08-21 19:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by imhere4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was drinking and i stopped, but 13 is kinda young, get him away from the friends that are influencing him. School Clubs, sport, outing, movies, libraries, part time job for both of you and claim you really need the money 4 a gift or somethin but you need to get him to help you, get him a girlfriend if youre not goin out with,. AHHHHH private tuition after class that ought to keep him occupied.
My point is he has to stay busy enough not to hang with them
2006-08-21 19:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not let yourself hang out with this person! I will tell you something...hanging out with people like that got me into some bad situations, this is not what you want tohear but it is the truth, learn the hard way or listen to your heart, know that for every action you have there will be a dominoe effect something that will effect you as you continue through your life..do not allow yourself to be drug down by someone into drugs and alcohol, it is not a good place to go.
2006-08-21 18:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by Free & Sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask him to stop. Share your concerns with him. If he doesn't want to stop drinking, eventually he'll want you to drink with him. You need to decide if you want to hang around to see him fail. If he's drinking at that age, he is setting his life up for failure. You are young. You have so much of your life ahead of you. Friends will come and go. It sucks when you have to cut ties with a friend over something so stupid, but you need to stand up for what you believe in. If you think that drinking is wrong, stick with it. Don't let him pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do.
2006-08-21 19:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is hard to do. If you truely care about your friend you will tell his parents so they can get him help. He could drink and end up behind the wheel or in the middle of a road and kill someone and/or himself. This is the best and only thing you should do for this person before it turns into a life changing or life ending problem and he ends up in jail for 20 years for drinking and driving. I say this with experience, please don't enable him to continue to destroy his life and the life of those who love him. God Bless you and him!
2006-08-21 19:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the school councillor . You're too young to handle this yourself. If you really care about your friend you may have to tell your parents, so he an get the helps he needs. Even if you lose the friendship. If things don't change you may lose it in a more tragic way.
2006-08-21 18:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by LAUGHING MAGPIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking at 13 usually has many underlying causes, unstable family life, insecurity, past abuse, alcoholisim in the family, depression, social anxiety, phobias. The best thing that you can do for him is to discuss it with him so he can get help. If this doesn't work talk to your parents about this issue as hard as it may seem. Most importantly don't let his substance abuse problems become yours.
2006-08-21 18:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by John T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can really do is incorage him not to but don't sound like you are trying to tell him what to do and if that doesn't work than you can really just try not to hang with him when he is doing it and let him know you don't want to really be around it and you care for him
2006-08-21 19:00:14 · answer #9 · answered by jamie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 is a bit young to be drinking. This could have a negative impact on the rest of his life.
Does his parents know? What about school counselors?
2006-08-21 18:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you shouldn't hang out with him. It's his choice to act stupid and ruin his life, and you can't change that, so just get away from him. It's not worth worrying about something you can't control. At least you're smart enough to know what he's doing is bad. Maybe if he sees that his behavior will make him lose his friends, he'll stop.
2006-08-21 18:56:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋