my boyfriend keeps pictures of his ex, this really upsets me, he says it is harmless nice memories. why doesn he do it when he knows i dont like it?
2006-08-21 11:34:31 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my boyfriend has pictures of 2 of his ex girlfriends when i questioned him about it he got rid of the pictures of one of them but wants to keep the ones of the other because he was in love with her had they are nice memories apparently, they are not on display but it still upsets me that he keeps them. why does he do it?
2006-08-21 11:51:57 · update #1
Apparently he still has feelings for her. Kick him to the curb before you get hurt.
2006-08-21 11:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoa, everybody. Slow down a sec. I have two questions. First, is he still friends with her? Second, what kind of pictures are they, and where are they?
I'm happily married, but I'm guessing that there are ex-girlfiends in some pictures I have around. If he's putting some other girl above you in some way (ex or not) then yoy have a dickhole for a boyfriend. But if the pictures are clean, and if he isn't obsessing over them, I don't think you need to worry.
Personally, I get more of a bad vibe when a girlfriend talks endless smack about an ex. It sounds like she's trying too hard or hiding something.
Trust your guy unless he acts in an untrustworthy way. But if he does, end it.
2006-08-21 11:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny Tezca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you trust him? Why would you be insecure about her? If the pictures are still on the wall or in a frame, I would be worried but if they are in a box, it's fine. Just accept the fact that she was obviously a part of his life and he might just want keep them for the memory? But it does not mean that he still wants to be with her because he is with you now right? I have letters from my ex-boyfriend and I love my boyfriend with whom I am now more than anyone else before. I think it's normal to worry about that but if he says that the pictures are just harmless memories, trust him and accept it and move on. Don't mention it again otherwise he will get upset that you don't trust him.
2006-08-21 11:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your same situation. I was so upset when I came across pictures or momentous from my boyfriend's past relationships. I told him how it upset me and he replied the same way yours did. It took me a while but I slowly let go of the worries and angry. I realized I also have pictures and momentous of my ex's or just friends of the past that are the opposite sex. I know that my saved stuff is harmless. Since I trust my boyfriend I just let it go. You can't win them all. I still get a little peeved about it once in awhile but believe me woman it doesn't mean anything. Ask yourself this..."If he liked the girls in the pictures why is he with me?" and if that doesn't work ask him why and after you discuss it enough he will either destroy, get rid of, or at least hide them better so you are not forced to be exposed to them.
Though if you are still worried and go snooping and find pictures you don't want to see and that he didn't want you to see you can only be mad at yourself. Plus he will not trust you for not trusting him.
2006-08-21 11:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by madisonsmommy2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason why this should bother you! Grow up and accept the fact that you have not been and will not be the only person in his life. Get away from the damaging effect of traditional social conditioning and think outside the box! I am sure there are many things you do to upset him but do you stop? Get a grip! Get a Life!
2006-08-21 11:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have left any pictures of ex's at my mums house that can't be thrown due to the memory. I accept that I can't have them with me due to similar friction but at the same time they are my only pictures of me at Niagra Falls and I don't plan going back. Some day I'll cut them up to show just me or will probably just chuck them. I don't keep them for the girl that's in them.
2006-08-21 11:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by Thinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they out on display or put away somewhere?
I'll be honest I've got photo's of exes but they're in a box with little mementoes, old postcards and stuff. She's a part of his history and you should accept that, unless he's sat at home looking at them all the time and then it sounds like he's not over her.
DON'T get rid of them yourself, it'll damage your relationship more and I bet you wouldn't appreciate him doing anything similar to your stuff.
2006-08-21 11:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by kookie_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men keep pictures of their ex-es. Same as women. Sentimental reasons. If he really loves you and you feel uncomfortable with the idea, then he will toss them. But I don't suggest forcing him to do that. It only shows that you're insecure and jealous. Instead, he should box them away and put them in the garage. If he has them in his desk or drawers or in the open, then that's a problem. Only when you're married or living together should you make him throw them away.
2006-08-21 11:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by jeneration Y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if his ex agrees to him keeping pics, which are memories after all's said and done then dont see this as a problem. But my experience is that i told my ex to delete my pics from his mobile, he said he had but i found out they are still there on his phone. Perhaps if you know his ex g/f ask her diplomatically how she feels, you may get a clearer picture.
2006-08-21 12:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by phildon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on him!
I destroy all my pictures of my ex girlfriends!
Why does he keep them!
It's a past life and well he's with you now so why the hell does he need them!
My advice is find them and burn them!
If he gets upset then he aint worth being with!
2006-08-21 11:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by stevenjohnevans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends where he keeps the pictures and how often he looks at them. If you found them in a bottom of a drawer its no big deal, I have lots of pictures stored away of X/s.. but if he has it sitting on his dresser in his bedroom or out someplace to look at everyday, MOVE on girlfriend... He isnt over her yet.
2006-08-21 11:43:11 · answer #11 · answered by Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋