For all those kind people who read my post, I would like to thank you all sincerely...since all of this happened three weeks ago, I have initiated 'no contact' with her....all was going ok until last week when I was coming into my parking lot and happened to see her with her new guy..As I was parking she came over to me and when I got out of my car she said to me "what, you don't want to talk to me anymore".,not looking at her I said 'what's the point'..then got my backpack and as I was closing the door she said to me something about wanting to be friends or me wanting to be friends...I could have broke down infront of her, believe me I wanted to, but all I said to her without hesitation and looking her straight in the face was "friends don't hurt people", turned around and walked away...that was last tuesday..saturday she called my home, but no message....then again yesterday morning again no message...any ideas?
2006-08-21 11:22:30 · 19 answers · asked by ken K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
YOU GOT TO HER WHEN YOU SAYED THAT IT MUST OF REALLY SUNK IN AN IT BOTHERS HER when you told her freinds dont hurt freinds but see what she has to say but dont forgive her be tuff an stand your ground (im proud of you)
2006-08-21 11:48:29 · answer #1 · answered by featherman_65018 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't read your other postings but going strictly on what I've read here, I think it would be safe to say that the female in reference has begun to feel as if she can't have you. And why it is, I'll never know, but we often want what we can't have.
Be aware that the calls may continue or the desire to communicate with you grow stronger on her part. Decide ahead of time how you will deal with certain situations before they have a chance to happen so that you're never 'caught off guard'. Protect your own feelings in that if you choose to communicate with this female once more on any level, you should not allow her to 'let you down' or 'hurt you again'.
Best of Luck
2006-08-21 18:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing mind games. If she cared about you at all, she would leave you alone. Now that you have stood up to her and showed you are really trying to move on, she wants to play. Please stay strong. She'll come at you more for you trying to move on, but I guarantee if you break, you'll get your feelings hurt because she thinks she has control over you. Go find you a woman and leave that little girl alone, she don't klnow how to treat you.
2006-08-28 22:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by va_tankz26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok honestly i know how she feels about you cuz i wuz exactly like her...she loves you...and im sure about it...she wuz just afraid b4 thatz y she wuz mean...dont ask y she wuz afraid becuz there can be many different reasons like how i wuz afraid....she wants u to give her another chance becuz she really does love you and she wants to prove to you that she can be sweet kind and caring and not a ###### dumb *** bit*h like everyone thinks. she only got a bf cuz she thinks ur the one that doesnt like her snymore so she thought if she got a bf then maybe ur feelings might change for her and u might like her again cuz when ppl get jelous...stuff happens. but she loves you..she wouldnt call if she didnt...i say give her a chance...cuz once u do you'll feel better than u ever had b4...so basicly im just sayin if my love gave me another chance...i would show him the true me...and the true me would Never hurt him. hope i helped
2006-08-21 18:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to give her a chance if she didn't have this new guy, but since she does, stay away from her. Because she isn't ready for the type of relationship you can offer. She'll regret it, big time, and you don't even have to go out of your way to make her regret it. Just stay away from her and when you decide to open up to someone new, she'll wish she was dead.
2006-08-21 18:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by sisifue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Treat em mean, keep em keen seems to be the case in this situation. She didnt want you and you gave chase....Now you have turned it around on her......its her ego....you are showing that you dont want her...so now she is giving chase. Even if you spoke to her, I doubt that it would last once she knows shes got you where she wants you.
Maybe the best thing you can do is to speak to her when she rings and tell her straight not to ring you anymore, that its over and she has to accept it...Turn it around.....dont feed her ego.
2006-08-28 04:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not read your first posting, however, if she has not apologized for hurting you, she is not a friend. I would continue to ignore her. A polite 'hi, how are you?' is OK but anything else would be a big mistake.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-28 14:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep away from her. It's hard, I know, but it's the right thing to do. If you start contact with her again, I see pain coming. Really, it wouldn't be good.
2006-08-21 18:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by interpreters_are_hot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing games with your heart. Nothing will get better until you two talk it out. So answer the phone next time she calls. Chances are she wants to apologize.
2006-08-21 18:30:49 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a great answer it made her think and certainly think about the way for feel. She call again but don't hurry she's hurt you once already. Good Luck!!
2006-08-28 23:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by Israel G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gut reaction was the best advice you could have given yourself. Walk away and keep going. Don't look back, you have nothing to regret and everything to gain
2006-08-28 22:12:03 · answer #11 · answered by pamela f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋