I chatted a guy from California. It was once only and I barely know him. However, he acts very strange already. Yesterday, he said that he sent me a cheque with a very big amount of money. Three-fourth of it wil go to his client and the rest will be mine. I didn't ask for it, yet he gave me. He's talking very, very strange and weird already like he's coming over and marry me. I am really, really stunned. Now, he said that a DVD handycam and a ring are going to be shipped soon. The crazy thing that I did was giving him my address. I dont know if it's better to accept those things. I really feel suspicious towards him. So is it better to receive those things? What do you think might happen afterwards? Please help me.
2006-08-21 11:12:00 · 8 answers · asked by SeriouslyInLove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This doesn't sound good. He sounds even worse than the 'money will buy love' type guys. He sounds ... oblivious to reality and dangerous possibly. I guess it's not news to you that it was a HUGE mistake to give out any personal information. Especially your address. If he really is 'wealthy' then it wouldn't be too big of a deal for him to fly out and see you. If I were you I'd just cut off any connection with this guy. If you decide you want to see where it goes, make it very very clear to him that you're not romantically interested in him until you actually are interested in him that way. Don't act casual when he talks about 'being with you' or marrying you. That's the kind of talk that will get him flying out to see you without you knowing about it ahead of time. Make sure there are no strings attatched to whatever gifts he's trying to shower you with. Don't ever feel like you owe him anything afterwards so long as you make that clear to him verbally before you accept it. Seriously though, I'd just shut him out if I were you.
2006-08-21 11:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank him kindly for his gestures and let him know you appreciate it, but you do not feel comfortable accepting gifts from him. Whatever he gives you send it back. The situation sounds weird and if you take something from him you will only encourage his strange behavior. If he doesn't get the hint then you should start separating yourself from him and let him know that's what will happen if he continues acting the way that he is. Anything other than that will make him feel you are giving the go-ahead and that you're leading him on. You must make your point loud and clear or it will just get worse. Good luck!
2006-08-21 18:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Brea1243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't taking any gift from him gurl it's a man think about it you taking anything from then he is going to want more for you if you know what am talking about and if he buying gifts like that and you was only with him one time you good girl lol no 4 real now just look out for stuff like that
2006-08-21 18:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by some one out there 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he knows youre sharing all this info with friends and family. You dont know him, he may be harmless but he's obvioulsy a little crazy and desparate. If it sounds bad, then your intuition is telling you be careful. Don't accept any gifts that seem too big. He may also be just playing... dont play his game and hopefully he'll go away.
2006-08-21 18:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If any packages come in the mail write "return to sender" and stick them back in the mail. You should NEVER give your home address out to anyone over the internet!
You should also inform your parents of what is going on - you are obviously not mature enough to use the internet without their supervision.
2006-08-21 18:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That guy sounds a little too controlling and scary! Be careful, money and gifts are nice but they fade away eventually. Your life is much more precious than "gifts". Love is something you both should feel not just him. Don't forget your own feelings!
2006-08-21 18:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only would I not accept the gifts, I would read my question over again...you used the words strange and weird 3 times....that is the limit....RUN AND FAST!
2006-08-21 18:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by Fee4Lyfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER give your address to someone over the internet unless you know them and NEVER accept things from people you don't know . . .you are asking for some SERIOUS trouble if you do. . I think I would move too
2006-08-21 18:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by wfgrg15001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋