I am in a relationship and a guy that I work with, who's also in a relationship, kissed me yesterday. I feel guilty but not as much as I think I should. He says that he had butterflies and I kind of did too. Can someone give me an idea what this means? I know it was wrong so please don't be rude to me. I feel bad enough.
2006-08-21 10:59:32 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I didn't kiss him back, I pushed him away. I'm not very happy in my relationship. I don't really know if he is or not. I'm not cheating on him. I didn't want this to happen.
2006-08-21 11:09:59 · update #1
You're human, you had a moment of weakness, and you made a mistake it's okay, now you have a choice to make the situation better for the both of your relationships by not letting it go further. You both probably got caught up in the moment because you're physically attracted to each other and have confused routine in your relationships with boredom, or it could be that you got caught up and this guy is just a dog who knows, but it's important that you walk away and be guilty of just a kiss and nothing else. Think about your relationship and how your significant other treats you - don't look for faults to excuse your behaviour just take an honest look and ask yourself if this is someone you love and care for, and does this person love and respect you. If all is well with your relationship then you and your boyfriend need to rekindle the spark - take a vacation somewhere together or do something that brings you closer. Think about this in other angles - How would you feel if your boyfriend kissed someone at work? - also there are guys who are turned on by women who are already in a relationship so this guy may just be out on the prowl to prove he's a player. You can still do the right thing - don't give in, forgive yourself and do the right thing from here on out.
2006-08-21 11:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by dee dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems that you or he either one are not 100% happy in ur relationships or else you would not have kissed each other. It's some thing that only you can decide. Do you love the guy ur with enough not to ever do that again and to be happy with him only or do u feel that you need to shop around a little before having a steady boy friend? Don't dog urself, what has happened has happened you just have to deal with it and move on, you cant live in the past. Good luck!
2006-08-21 11:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by Hilllbilly_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mistake happen and thats what your saying it was. Now if it happens again its no longer a mistake. Then you have to take a step back and evaluate the current relationship your in. If your happy with your boy then you shouldnt have any reason to have feelings or want to kiss another guy. The same goes for your coworker. Try putting yourself on your bf shoes. If you found out that he kissed his coworker and said that "it was a mistake" would you be ok with it? Dont beat yourself over it. Try to be a little more carefull next time when your around your coworker
2006-08-21 11:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad! It's all going to be okay. Okay, when he said that he had butterflies, he meant that he was scared to kiss you cause he didn't know if u liked him..obviously he liked you. The only way u should feel guilty is if u kissed him back.
It IS wrong, but u couldn't help it. Talk to the guy and tell him.
2006-08-21 11:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by [brown♥eyed♥girl] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy probably liked you from the start and didn't know how to tell you. Dont panic it's life just remain the same and act as if nothing happen because telling your boyfriend will make it worse he probably would think that you all have been having something going on and then his trust will weaken each time he thinks about you going to work.
2006-08-21 11:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you should feel bad. Your both cheating. Was you want us to say well done? But remember the old saying now that you are both cheating on your partners what goes around comes around. If you don't understand that it means some day some will cheat on you, and then you can't cry about it because you did't it once yourself ok!
2006-08-21 11:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a good long look inside your heart and figure out just how committed you are to your relationship. Sometimes it may seem like "the grass is greener on the other side" but chances are that is not the case. I would suggest you keep your feeling about the situation to yourself and just let it pass.
2006-08-21 11:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by Antisocial 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't be rude, but my experience tends to make me give advice against any type of relationship in the work place. It leads to some serious consequences if it goes down hill. Don't get caught up in that kind of drama, it really hurts.... OMG a guy admiting to being hurt... wow!!!!!!
2006-08-21 11:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to look at yourself and answer your own question. Think of it this way, would you feel good about your boyfriend kissing another girl? I'm not trying to make you feel bad, just something to think about
2006-08-21 11:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you feel butterflies. Its the same feeling as shoplifting.
You know its wrong and do it anyway. Go home and tell your other that its okay for him to go on the prowl because you are.
2006-08-21 11:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋