2006-08-21 10:57:33 · 21 answers · asked by Trixi Curious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
IT SIMPLY CLARIFIES THE RELATIONSHIP
2006-08-21 11:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breaks. Studies show that couples are more prone to not getting married after living together. I for one, have done this twice and I am in the process of moving out of a place I share with a boyfriend. Reasons why? When a couple lives together before marriage, their levels of staying committed and acceptance isn't there. Say that you grow apart or are having problems, the exit to leave and break up is there at the drop of a hat because you aren't married. If you were married, you would be more prone to stay together and work things out. You would feel more inclined to accept your partner's faults and mistakes because of that foundation of marriage. Most people would say: "I've got to save this marriage so I am going to accept, compromise and work on this." Without the marriage before living together, either party feels that they don't have to put up with each other if they do not want to because they are just boyfriend/girlfriend. Also, some men in these situations are more prone to not popping the question because they feel that they already have you, why ruin it? This doesn't apply to everyone, just a good percentage.
2006-08-21 11:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by jeneration Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It breaks it. I've done this FOUR times. The relationship was great...then we moved in, and it became like a marriage. The thing was, there were no vows keeping us together, so we weren't as committed to working it out as we would've been if we were married. If you are going to live together, it's like being married, and I think that because of this fact, you SHOULD be married first. I also think that it helps the guy to make the decision to propose because if you are living with him already, what would be the point in marriage?
I would say to be careful about this decision. If you intend on marrying the person one day, wait until then. Don't be tempted to move in just cuz its cheaper or you miss them........because if and when it doesn't work out, it is just like a messy divorce.
2006-08-21 11:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends...I lived with my husband for about 45 days before we got married...it is definitely an eye opening experience. You learn a lot of idiosyncrasies that you probably would not find out until later. Make or break a relationship? I don't think it could do either...unless either one of you compromised each other's lifestyle by your own way of living. But then, should you be together anyway? Good Luck.
2006-08-21 11:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by Fee4Lyfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depend on many factors,things can have no difference if is a couples or is best friend.Living together would require a lot of commitment,compromise and understanding.The cycle of ask,out, and go home will no longer exist if staying together,staying together would have more time seeing each other,but seeing each other more doesn't mean there will be more understanding.If one could't commit,compromise and understand others,or just wish someone to share the rent and the bill. Its better to stay out of living together as it would likely ruin a relationship
2006-08-21 11:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together when the time is right makes the relationship better because you won't have to miss the person and you find out each others likes and dislikes and you can prepare yourself for marriage better when you have already lived together and you already know how to keep good house and experience cooking with each other so yes it is better to me
2006-08-21 11:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from my personal expriance it can let you know more about that person then you would have just dateing them. I found out after 6 yrs of living with them that they came more dependent on me then what they should have. You find alot of likes and dislikes you both have. If you have some one you been with a long time it could be different I guess. When you move in with someone make sure he's mister right because things can get ugly.
2006-08-21 11:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon the two people in the relationship.
My problem with living together is that it is usually the woman who puts most of the effort into making the relationship work and the guy who gets most of the benefits.
2006-08-21 11:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! I was in a relationship for 4 years with someone. We moved in together and within 6mo the relationship was over. You neglect each other once your in the position of seeing them day in and day out. Absence makes the heart grow fonder! Why buy the cow, you know the rest. Just think about it!
2006-08-21 11:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by angel 22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely! When you live together you see that person so much more then if you were dating and living in seperate homes. You see all of the little thing that your significant other does - from farting to flossing to walking around in their underwear. There's no hiding from it. So either you can deal with it or you can't.
2006-08-21 11:13:57 · answer #10 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you move in together, one of you or even both stops making an effort as they begin to take each other for granted as they know they will see each other every day. I have definitely learnt my lesson on more than one occasion.
2016-01-21 04:33:23 · answer #11 · answered by zoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋