I dont have nothing agaisnt gay people. I dont like hanging around gay guys that acts feminin, but I feel more comfortable around gay guys that acts normal which is masculine. Could yall please tell my why I feel that way against those type of gay guys thank you all so much. By the way I'm strait and DO NOT have anything against gay people
2006-08-21 10:55:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
everyone feels safer in environment more reflective of themselves. im sure that there are gay men who feel uncomfortable around more flamboyant gay men. the important thing is that you do not lump a whole community in one category or the other, but realize that men come in all types (whether gay or straight).
2006-08-21 11:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so you're trying to be open minded. Lets work on some of your definitions though,ok? Get rid of that notion about what's "normal." Even among straight men, some are more masculine, and some could be even a little feminine. So far, all we are talking about are normal people, within a normal range of differences.
Now you say you are uncomfortable around feminine acting guys. I understand that. It is not what you are used to, and maybe subconsciously they remind you of girls and you are not comfortable thinking of a guy like a girl, because that's gay! Calm down, you'll be fine.
It's nice to find a good friend in a straight guy who is comfortable around some gay guys anyway. In time, maybe you'll get used to all of us! Thanks for trying!
2006-08-21 23:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few things. First: you were literally raised with the constant social conditioning that "gay = bad". The way stereotypes / categories / "schemas" work in your head is that when you find one or two exceptions, you don't discount the stereotype; you make ANOTHER category of "exceptions". So, people who fit the stereotype have to fight harder against your socialization than people who don't.
Second: honestly, I don't even feel like getting into gender, but I'll just say that a LARGE part of what we call "gender" is all just arbitrary traits divided into a binary; aggression or liking sports aren't really "male": they are because society says they are. People don't like being around people who make them think about the fragility of their own gender.
Third: often, these people are "larger than life". In short, they take some getting used to. Try giving the femmes a chance, and actually getting to know them, and you might get past that quicker.
2006-08-21 22:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably the gut reaction against something that you perceive as normal, like you said you have nothing against their sexuality, but men are supposed to be "masculine" and women "feminine". Its just the stereotypes that we are brought up with, unfortunately we dont all fit into normalcy, sorry, God knows i wish I did.
I hope this helps a little bit, try and push out of your comfort zone a little and soon you will find yourself being ok with everyone.
2006-08-21 18:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by karruttopp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know something?? I'm gay, and I don't like hanging around the fem guys. It just turns me off. I like masculine men. If I wanted a girl, I'd be with one. I want a MAN!!!
2006-08-22 02:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because its normal for a man to be masculine its not normal for him to act like a fruit so its not suprising you would freak out over it. Its nasty and gross. But if a guy is "gay" and masculine at least he can keep his homosexual lifestyle to himself and still act like a regular normal guy and appear as one.
2006-08-21 19:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by homosceptic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honey. Everyone's version of "normal" differs from person to person. It's probably that you don't really understand gay men at all. What maybe "normal" for you may not be for them. Get out of your comfort zone and get to know gay men of all spectrums.
2006-08-21 18:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as they conform to your ideas of how they should act. as in normal, so as long as they don't look gay you're ok with it. meaning no one will think you're with a gay and you won't be embarresed. sorry honey it doesn't work that way you are homophobic (an irrational fear of gays) recognize the signs and deal with it, some of those nellie queens are the nicest most loyal people in the world, try to hang with a couple you might be pleasantly surprised..............peace
2006-08-22 02:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im gay and STILL wont hang around guys who act femnine. There just doing it to be retards. So no I totaly agree you should hate them.
2006-08-21 20:09:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My feelings towards gay mean are exactly the same, and I'm gay.
2006-08-21 18:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋