Me and my best friend have been best friends for 6 years and since we've gotten older things have changed and I don't want to be friends anymore. I don't want to be mean about it but we're different now and she won't listen, like she won't take a hint. But I feel bad enough not wanting to be friends but I need her to know because hanging with her isn't enjoyable anymore, you know? Please help, what should I do?
2006-08-21 10:00:33 · 17 answers · asked by Shorty 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You cant be mean to her due to the fact that you no longer want to be friends with her. If you dont, just dont tell her anything, kuz if you straight out tell her you dont want to be friends anymore, than she will be hurt. Just dont call her as much, and dont go out with her as much, try avoiding her, and coming up with excuses for not going out with her. But dont be to mean, You guys have been friends for a long time. And people DO change througout the years. You cant stop that from happening.
Why do you feel that she has changed to the worst, that you dont want to hang our with her?
What is the problem?
Its really hard to find a "true friend" these days. And you guys have history together. You should be happy.
But if you feel that you dont need her company anymore, than just avoid her as much as you can!
2006-08-21 10:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by Happily Married 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All im gonna say is while the two of you have changed and have your ways, if she hasnt done anything to disrespect you, i wouldnt cut her completely off, 2 years from now you two may be back to being best friends, maybe you wont, did you ever stop to think there have been times youve irritated her but she put up with you because she was your friend? Im not saying hang with her because i doubt she'd want someone two faced in her life, but if you two have been best friends, its kinda funny to completely stop talking to her when shes done nothing wrong, i dont hang around mybest friend of 14 years like i use to, actually we havent talked for a few, but weve been through so much n even though she gets on my nerves n i get on hers, theres somethings you can never replace, then again theres some people you can _ hint !!!!
2006-08-21 10:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there are people out there that just can't take a hint. Some people have to get their feelings hurt in order for it to sink in that their company isn't wanted anymore. I'm not saying to attack her verbally or physically, but do it in a nice way. Tell her the reasons why you don't want to hang out anymore. be honest with her. If you can't say it to her face to face, then write it in a letter or tell her over the phone. This has happened to me before. The girl kept showing up everywhere I was and she was up my a@@ all the time and I finally told her that she was crowding me, she needs to find other friends to hang with cause it wasn't working out between her and I. She got the hint and I have been free of her ever since.
2006-08-21 10:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just tell her the truth, and you need to have all the reasons why you don't think you two should be friends anymore ready to go, because she will be asking, and most likely it will hurt her. My best friend and I don't really talk anymore, and we both understand that its just the way it is, but once in a while when you really need that one person in your life that has been there for you, she will be there! Think about it before telling her to get lost!
2006-08-21 10:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing as you.
Don't be rude to the girl. Show her respect and be friendly. Try to slowly detach yourself from her. Get involved in things that she won't follow your toward. You'll meet friends that you enjoy hanging out with.
Just remember that you can still be her friend. Just not her best friend. Make sure she realizes that too.
2006-08-21 10:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Natalya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her and explain that you have grown apart and you don't really have much in common anymore or she does things that make you uncomfortable or whatever your reasons are. Maybe she doesn't realize that things have changed between you.
If she still doesn't leave you alone, all I can say is don't return her phone calls. She'll eventually get the hint.
2006-08-21 10:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by lolo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start hanging out with other friends more and decrease the time u spend with her.if she confronts u about it, tell her straight up that u two are different now and its not enjoyable to be with her anymore.that both of u should hang with new friends.i kno,its a tough position but if ur not mean about it it should turn out alright.
2006-08-21 10:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by ♥BermudaShortzROCK♦ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be mean to her about it. approach her gently. juss say something like " okay we rele need to talk. i kno we've been best friends for 6 years but we've both changed and things are kinda different now. im not trying to be mean at all but i dont rele wanna be friends ne more. its not that fun hanging out with yu now and i dont think theres much point in us being friends. im so sorry" maybe something like that so its not mean but your telling her how u rele feel so she doesnt think ur juss being a biotch. i hope things turn out well!
2006-08-21 10:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by <3scofield<3! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-Let her know, u owe her that much as a friend. When u sit and talk with her maybe shes feeling uncomfortable too, maybe its a misunderstanding on both ur parts, talk it over, if u cant come to a compromise then make it known that u are going ur seperate ways!!!
2006-08-21 10:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Nay Nay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to tell a friend that our relationship just wasn't working for ME anymore. Don't attack her or tell her what is wrong with her, just tell you that YOU have changed. Keep it short and sweet.
2006-08-21 10:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋