okay well when I was alittle drunk I gave my friends little brother a hand job, and my friend found out and so did my boyfriend, my boyfriend dumped me and now my friends relaly mad at me, what should I do to fix all this?? please help!
2006-08-21 09:58:54 · 51 answers · asked by blah blah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I dont get drunk very often, it was a stupid thing to do.
2006-08-21 10:06:52 · update #1
I'm 17 and hes 16, not that much age difference
2006-08-21 10:09:11 · update #2
hey, your a slut - play the hand your dealt
alchohol only gave your mind permission to do what you would have anyway in a consequence free environment
2006-08-21 10:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by ryandebraal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you that drunk that you could do it but still remember?
It was pretty silly but was is done can not be changed. You might recover your friends, for instance promising them that you will not get drunk another time. By the way, how old are you and your little brother's friend? Take care young lady, STD do exist.
Be happy that all that happened was that.
About the chances to recover your boyfriend mmmm if he is really in love with you then he will need some time and after changing meeting place if possible, then it might come back. Just doubt it.
Do not try to fix it, just admit your mistake and promise - at least say- it will not happen again. Ask their apologies and try to keep your friends. If no possible, at least keep your little brother's mouth shut as long as you can, otherwise problems also at home.
Next time try to have friends, family and boyfriend belonging to different groups so that if you " slip " again, the consequences will not be so massive in your life.
2006-08-21 10:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Expat Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chalk this one up as a learning experience. First, forgive yourself for doing something inappropriate. Second, apologize to both your bf and your friend. Chance are slim that either will accept your apology now. But with age should come maturity, (most of the time.) Mature people learn from mistakes and life experience. I would suggest that drinking is not for you if you do inappropriate behaviors and do not think clearly. This is a fairly early sign that you should not drink, therefore stop now.
After some time/years has past and each of you have developed more maturity what happened will no longer be an issue. You are still very young and you will have another bf and more friends in your life time. After you have apologize the ball is in their court.
2006-08-21 23:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by intrigued 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really no way (at least that I know of) to fix that. That is why I hate alcohol. You do stupid things and you can't take them back. So just make this a lesson learned. Unless you want to keep doing stupid things, I suggest you stop drinking. A lot of people blame most of their stupidity on alcohol or drugs, so why do they keep on using it? It's not a excuse. And if it is, then stop drinking. I have drank in the past, I knew what I was doing, but I couldn't control it. I haven't really done anything stupid. Nothing at least to the point of shame. Maybe embarrassment. But now I don't touch the stuff. I have seen many lives ruined because of it. From drunk driving to divorces. None of it is pretty. So if you can't control your liquor, you need to quit. When you say little brother, how old are we talking about? You really need to think about that and how it's going to effect that little boy too.
2006-08-21 10:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, sometimes you just have to take the hit for being stupid. Yes, you did a stupid thing. At least you know it was stupid. All you can do is apologize. It is possible that they will not forgive you, and that this will be a "Life Lesson" in what NOT to do.... i.e. become sexually involved in ANY way with someone who is not your boyfriend. Also, you may have noticed from this that some people don't like it when their friends do stuff like this with their siblings. Apologize ONCE... very sincerely. If they can't accept your one apology, then the ball's in their court and it's their problem. Make sure it STAYS their problem. =) Good luck!
2006-08-21 10:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by Bitsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all do stupid things in life and have to pay the price. First thing you need to do is realize you probably shouldn't ever let yourself get that drunk. For the rest of this just apologize and let what they feel be. I don't think your boyfriend will ever forgive you and I doubt if your friend will either. That is simply your price to pay and hopefully you will have learned a lesson from this and not get so drunk that you do something that stupid again.
2006-08-21 10:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really fix any of this. The only thing you can do is apologize to your friend and tell her it was only because you were drunk and also apologize to your ex-bf and let him know you are very sorry. You should also make it a personal promise to yourself to never get that drunk again where you do something so stupid.
2006-08-21 10:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wont be able to "fix" it. I think you may need to take some time out and evaluate your life and where its going. If alcohol is a problem for you and you regularly do VERY stupid things when drunk, its time to figure out whether thats a good thing for you to be involved in anymore. Your name and your honor are very important... they follow with you for the rest of your life (whether you like the idea of it or not). Please lay low for a while and try to get your head screwed on straight... youve got so many years ahead of you and your going to look back at these years and wish you hadn't done so many things you truly regret.
2006-08-21 10:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How little is her brother?!! Sorry but being "drunk" is not an excuse to have someone's di-k in your hand!! I'm tired of people using that for an excuse! You need to apologize to your friend and boyfriend, and show your boyfriend that you CAN be trusted!!
Good luck with that!!
2006-08-21 10:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by smarteepants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it will depend on everyones maturity level. Right now, you may have burned bridges with everyone. I would attempt to speak with everyone, and apologize. If they will not listen, try a written note, or e-mail, text, whatever. If they still won't listen, you will need to accept thier anger, and move on. There will be nothing else you can do about it. Maybe in the future, when things settle down and feelings aren't so hurt, you'll be able to resolve this with them. In any event, you've learned very important lessons here, and hopefully, will not repeat your mistakes.
2006-08-21 10:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how young the little brother is! Explain how sorry you are and that you were drunk (now being drunk is no excuse, keep in mind) you may not get the bf back but maybe you can salvage the friendship!!
2006-08-21 10:06:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋