My b/f asked me to have sex with his friend and he watches.I didn't say "yes" or "no" . I'm confused.When I sit to myself I say why not as he wants me to do that. After a while I say I can't do that.Please help
2006-08-21 09:55:02 · 15 answers · asked by moonlight 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
don't go there. You will not respect yourself again
2006-08-22 23:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by evening_dewpoint 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were in your shoes I would say no. I cannot see a person telling you that they love you and then in the next breath wanting you to be intimate with another person. Not to mention, even if he says that he wants to watch you do this now, how will he act after it is done. Will he still think the same of you or will he look down on you. Not to mention if he is able to convince you to do it once why not ask you to do it again with someone else. Why wouldn't he ask you to take on two guys for his enjoyment. Think about all of the case scenarios that could result from you doing what he's asking. Then ask yourself if you are able to accept each and every thing that could result from you doing this. Now you've made an adult decision that you can live with.
2006-08-21 18:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by MJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Really and truly don't.
My first b/f asked or hinted for me to do this, and I refused. It was a sign he didn't love or respect me, and he soon started doing other disrespectful things, like being controlling and pushing me around.
Ditch the jerk before he can do anything else creepy and sick.
2006-08-22 02:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything you don't want to. It's just that simple...and frankly your boyfriend is a jerk. You're not an object that he can leer at in the corner...you not a piece of meat that can be handed around...and you're not there for HIS pleasure.
I suggest that you dump him and find a man that truly knows how to treat a woman...
I'm so tired of women that ask banal questions about their idiotic boyfriends. Life is too short to be stuck with a bad man...so grow up, get out, and move on.
2006-08-21 17:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't do it if you are not sure it is what YOU want. He does not have to feel guilty for doing it afterwards...you will be the only one that does. Most boys try to talk their girlfriends into things and then dump them shortly thereafter. Then ofcourse the boys all talk about it which makes you the talk of the town. I say tell him if he really cares for you then he would want you all for himself and not to share you with the world.
2006-08-21 17:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by raineydazey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What the f**k are you confused about. Tell him you will have sex with his friend when he plays in a burning building with no way out. If you don't want to do it then DON'T. Don't let anyman force you into doing anything that you don't want to do.
2006-08-21 18:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How confused do you have to be to not stand up for yourself and make the right decision? If he asked you to jump off of a bridge would you consider that too?
2006-08-21 17:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it is something you don't want to do, then don't. RESPECT YOURSELF! Ask yourself if you would respect yourself if you had sex with his friend.
Personally, if my boyfriend asked me that, I would tell him to get lost. A person who asks their significant other that question doesn't respect their boyfriend or girlfriend... and they certainly don't respect the relationship.
2006-08-21 17:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by hep216 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are definitely spending time with the wrong people.
2006-08-21 20:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by Daniel T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your b/f doesn't value you at all, and of course it ruins your relationship!!!
2006-08-21 20:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋