im bisexual and im really afraid of people finding out. I know my friends wont care but my families doesnt like people like that. I guess im just afraid of what people would think about me if they found out. How should i deal with this?
2006-08-21 09:29:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think if it bothers you you should take care that your family does not find out. I myself am straight but my daughter is gay. I also don't understand how a parent could treat their child any differently. I love my girl very much and it doesn't matter to me that she is gay.
What other people think of you doesn't matter, and that goes for anything, not just homosexuality, or being bi, or whatever. What matters is how you feel about you, because you are the only person you HAVE to live with. As long as you are cool with who you are, what others think doesn't matter.
2006-08-21 09:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by j 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your family's disapproval probably stems from fear and misunderstanding. Most people who are supportive towards the LGBT community personally know at least one person who is gay/bisexual. Would your family still condemn same sex attraction once they realised that their own flesh and blood is part of that group?
Coming out as bisexual in some ways can be more difficult than coming out as homosexual. For starters, some people think that bisexuals are either homosexuals in denial, or who can't make their minds up. In addition, your family may come up with something along the lines of the following "if you are attracted to members of the opposite sex, then why on earth would you want to date a member of the same sex?"
Firstly, you might want to contact an LGBT group, where you can meet likeminded people. Coming out to them might seem a pointless exercise, but its a good way of getting the ball rolling and more importantly - getting people on your side.
One thing which really irritated me was a close friend who tried to maintain that I was really homosexual. For a short while, I really did believe that but thankfully it only lasted a few weeks. I'm not saying that homosexuality is a bad thing - it is a label which doesn't fit me personally. I cannot deny my feelings towards the opposite sex, so this means I'm not a homosexual.
You might want to save coming out to your family until you have more people on your side, and also when you're in (if not already) a situation where you are not dependent on being under the same roof as them.
2006-08-21 10:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal that you are afraid because its something different and had not been fully accept in today society.You know you can't change the fact that you are bi,but that doesn't mean you can't lead a normal life.Its always like this,after you finally figure who you really are,there always guilt linger around because at some point,why bi?why me?and you feel that you let your family down and its a sin,would the church let you in,stuff like that.
If you are not comfortable with letting people know you are a bi,keep it to yourself,bi means you will attracted to opposite and same gender.So if you are attracted to the opposite gender,there is nothing to deal with but if you are attracted to the same gender,thats where you have something that its a must to deal with.But at the moment,just enjoy that the fact you are bi,that is nothing to be despair at all.Accept and respect yourself first before you expect others to accept and respect you
2006-08-21 11:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to decide what type of bisexual you are. I'm not out in the open with my biness, and I practice it behind closed doors. No one needs to know if you don't want them too. I'm married and my parents have no idea that I am bi. My husband and I deal with it and are very open about it with each other. I don't feel as though I'm keeping something important from my parents, and its not like I'm going to run into them at those types of bars nor am I planning on bringing my girlfriend to Chirstmas this year. My friends that I have choosen to tell about it are very close to me so I don't fear them saying anything to anyone I don't choose to share it with. You have to decide how you want it to work and it will.
2006-08-21 09:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by skippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you be afraid.You like girls,,, you like boys,,, doesn't really mean you are bi=== whatever you call that in america,, or other european countries,,, making a hush about being a girl and being a man... if you are a girl... you have a vigina and a penis at the same time then you are a bi-- so you call them... if you are a man and have a vigina.... then you are a bi------ whatever,,, otherwise,,, you are either a lesbian,,, or a gay... who wants to play with any other sex,,, male or female....
Only americans,,, invented that sexuality of being bi or no bi.... betttery buy yourself out...
2006-08-21 09:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from expierence...im bisexual. I told my family and friends when i was 20 years old....I hadn't been messing around with guys for even about 6 months but i couldnt hide it. Its a risk that everyone takes on their on time. You will tell them when your ready. Most of your friends will care but at the same time it shouldnt bother them...not that you would be attracted to them sexually anyways right? Family should love you regardless but not all are the same. Tell them when your ready.....be ready for the worst never expect the best.....but if you plan for the worst then your ready to take what ever they dish out to you.........dont rush....it comes in time....but once you do tell and are open about it....its so much easier to be yourself............and really you should not care what other people think about you.........not one of us were put here to impress anyone....be yourself and dont try to be something your not......it never works.....society sucks in its way but we all deal with it.
2006-08-21 10:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by got_dirt760 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heres an idea, DONT BE BI! And guess what, if you are afraid some will find out, well you better be very afraid now because alot of ppl know
2006-08-21 09:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just be discreet until you can move away from your family and make a life of your own somewhere else. But don't ty to deny what you are or you will miss out and lead a miserable life.
2006-08-21 09:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Footy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've lived my whole life this way, hiding in the closet but I can't tell you what to do but if I had to do it all over again I come out and live my life the way I needed to do. My best wishes from someone who understands
2006-08-21 11:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by Buddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your best not to tell anyone. The less people who know, the less chance of someone blabbing your secret. When you meet with someone, make sure it is somewhere wihere nobody will expect you to be. There's nothing wrong with it at all.
2006-08-21 11:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋