It's been over a year since he's seen his child, he does not know where she's at, and every attorney he's talked to wants at least $3,000 just to get started. He pays his support and is a great daddy..his ex, on the other hand, is psycho. Help!
2006-08-21 09:13:58 · 18 answers · asked by Karley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not stop the child support.. that would be a huge mistake on ur part, Child Support and visitations are seperate issues.. by stopping the child support ur only hurting ur children, NOT the x wife.. If u go to the court house, U can file the paper work urself to take her to court, they have "advisors" at the court house to help u with it, and to make sure u have everything u need, Its still going to cost money to file the papers.. but not nearly as much as having to get a lawyer.. and if all he is wanting is visitations with his children then it shouldnt be very much paper work to file.. also he can hold her incontempt of court and possibly make her have to pay back the court costs that he had to pay in order to take her to court, since it is her fault he's having to take her to court.. The problem is tracking her down .. u should go see a lawyer that does Free conceltation and ask advice on how to track her down.. but im curious.. he's got to be sending the money somewhere for the child support.. so where ever he's sending the money to.. they obviously have her address, so id contact them and see if u can get ahold of her address.. But if you stop the child support.. then the law will come down on you, suspend ur license take away your tax returns ect.. so that wouldnt be good for u or ur children..
2006-08-21 09:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 03:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by Julius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you to try and get involved in a situation that sounds like it's none of your business. A great daddy??? No ...he hasn't seen his kid in a year....that makes him a shitty daddy. Have your boyfriend grow a set and become part of his childs life.....you are telling an outright lie to say any attny wants $3000.00 to get started....his divorce attny or any would start for a $1000.00 retainer at the most. Also...is it child or children....please make up your mind. Bottom line here he can stop paying her and she'll have to take him back to court at which point he can say he isn't paying because the ex is violating his visitation/custody rights...he does have those doesn't he? There's a lot of holes in your story.....
2006-08-21 09:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was a great daddy he wouldn't have lost track of his kids and if she is psycho then why would he leave and not make sure he took the kids with him? So now that we have a reality check in place....It looks like he needs to earn $3000 and get started. Keep in mind though that you know one side of the story. I'm sure hers is very different than his you weren't there and don't know what happened. Your average psycho sticks around and tries to make the ex miserable, this 'psycho' took her kids and disappeard...hmmmmm.
2006-08-21 09:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't judge unless you know the whole story. There are two sides to every story. I'm not saying that the father has done anything wrong but try to see it from her viewpoint. There might be a good reason why she doesn't let him see his child. But try to contact legal services. I think at this point the only thing he can do is get a court order for visitation and try to locate her through family/friends. Good luck.
2006-08-21 09:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't touch this on my own with a 10 foot pole. Ex's can be very vindictive... next thing you know she'll be saying that he abused the child or does drugs or something. Especially if she's psycho. There is no way to reason with an irrational person.
Invest in the lawyer.
2006-08-21 09:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by answerlady1021 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Look at all these people judging and hating.
Have him contact the Attorney General's office of the state the divorce was finalized in. Check his decree because it may say that she needs to let him know where she lives. The AG's office should be able to help find the kids for him.
2006-08-21 09:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he contacted the child support office? Maybe legal aid can help them they helped a friend of mine in a similar situation. If he is paying his child support then the child support office can see about setting up visitation. I may be wrong but thats my understanding
2006-08-21 09:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by naomihank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the ex-husband have an order? Take her to court. This is not your fight and you should not be directly involved. It's the husband's job. Don't totally think the ex-wife is a pyscho. It's wrong to judge her without knowing both sides. She may know something you don't.
2006-08-21 09:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by b's wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the ex is vindictive and bitter. And its too bad because the ones who really suffer are the children.
There's not a whole lot he can do without consulting with an attorney.
p.s. You should stay out of it. Your involvement will only make things worse.
Good luck!
2006-08-21 09:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋